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CHAPTER FIVE:
REDEMPTION
Written by Rick
Archer
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Rick's Note:
As I have said, this book is not just about Rick
and Marla. It is also about Fate. It is
also about how the studio's Love Boat Era began. As we
shall see, the three topics are intertwined
throughout the book.
So where do we stand in Gypsy Prophecy?
We have not met Marla. We have not
met the Gypsy. Please be patient. Marla
will make her grand appearance in the next chapter.
As for the Gypsy, let's save her for later as well.
As for the cruise ships, that topic begins now with a
background story about George Mitchell. Who is
George Mitchell? Good question. It turns
out that I knew a great deal about this man long
before I discovered his identity.
In the previous chapter, I mentioned Maria
Ballantyne. She was the woman who rescued me
from the most serious crisis of my life during my senior year of high
school. As I said, the magnitude of the coincidences surrounding
that event were so profound that I
came to view her intervention as the closest thing to a
Miracle I would ever experience. During this
life-saving
conversation, Mrs. Ballantyne mentioned
how much I reminded her of her brother George. When I
asked why, Mrs. Ballantyne said that George came from
nothing, but was so determined to succeed in life that he
refused to let any obstacle stop him. Considering how
pathetic I was at the time, I cannot imagine what
Mrs. Ballantyne saw in me to believe I would one day
amount to much.
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Maria
Ballantyne was by far the best-known mother at St. John's.
She had seven children at the school. Every one
of them was a leader. I admired her from the
moment I first saw her in 1959. That was the
year of my parents' divorce. Watching my
mother fall to pieces, I was very drawn to this
charismatic woman. Watching her interact with
her children, I concluded she was a very effective
mother. Considering how insecure I was, every
time I saw her at the school, I wished I could have
Mrs. Ballantyne as my mother instead. Given
that I nursed this same secret wish for nine years,
imagine how shocked I was when the woman I
considered the 'Best Mother on Earth' showed up out
of nowhere to take me under her
wing.
Seeing her appear at the grocery store where I
sacked groceries was strange enough. She had
never been in here before. What made it
even more unusual was her decision to befriend me, a
young man she did not recognize and had never spoken
to.
Curiously enough, I estimate I passed right by her
in the school hallway once a week for nine years.
In all that time, not once did we ever speak, not
once did we ever exchange a glance. I looked
at her, but she never looked at me. And yet
the moment I needed a mother's touch more than at
any other time in my life, Maria Ballantyne showed
up on my doorstep just like Cinderella's Fairy Tale
Godmother to save me. This Miracle is what inspired me
to write my first book, The Hidden Hand of God.
After I graduated, I assumed I would never see her
again. To my great satisfaction, we met five
more times over the years. Each time was a
joyful reunion. Although we never said it out
loud, we both knew there was a special connection
between us. However, there was one thing about
my friend that aggravated me. Every time we
met, Mrs. Ballantyne mentioned that I reminded her of
her incredible brother George. Not once did I
ever get the chance to ask who he was or why he was
so important.
In 2014, 46 years after
my first conversation with Mrs. Ballantyne, I accidentally discovered
her middle
name. Maria Mitchell Ballantyne. Hmm.
After all these years I had a chance
to put two and two together. George
plus
Mitchell. Three nanoseconds later, a
Google search revealed his identity. I gasped.
Oh my God.
Guess what? George was a billionaire.
Guess what else? George was the reason the
cruise industry came to Galveston. I instantly
understood that George Mitchell had played a huge
part in the SSQQ Love Boat Era. One more thing. George was best friends
with some guy named Stephen Hawking. You may
have heard of him. Stephen Hawking delivered a
beautiful eulogy when George Mitchell passed away in
2013.
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SEPTEMBER
2000: GEORGE
MITCHELL BRINGS the
cruise SHIP INDUSTRY TO GALVESTON
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Although I never
had the honor to meet George Mitchell, I
feel like I know this man personally
thanks to all the kind things his sister
Maria said about him.
As our story
unfolds, we will read how the key event in the Gypsy
Prophecy took place on a cruise
ship. However, this trip
would have never happened if George
Mitchell had not first made it possible.
'Surfing'
is the ability to catch a wave just as
it breaks and take it for a ride.
In my case, I caught hold of a Tidal
Wave which became the key to my future.
Totally by accident... or perhaps
Fate... my idea to schedule a cruise trip coincided
with a momentous event taking place in
Galveston, a city 50 miles southeast of
Houston. And what might that event
be?
The recent arrival of the
cruise ships was the single most
important development in the
revitalization of a city mired in a
serious economic slump.
J.K. Rowling, a
major philanthropist in her own right,
once said, "When
you’ve been given far more than you
need,
you have a moral responsibility to do wise things with it and give
intelligently."
George Mitchell
not only exemplified that perspective,
he took it one step further. In
addition to vast donations and
investments, Mitchell made it his
mission to find a
way to revive the flagging
economic fortunes of his hometown.
Of all his accomplishments on
Galveston's behalf, luring the
cruise ships was his greatest feat.
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Once upon a time,
Galveston was the mightiest port in the entire
Caribbean. That ended with the Great Storm of 1900
that reduced Galveston to rubble. With the city in
ruins, it was unable to recover
swiftly enough to advantage of the Texas oil boom of 1901.
This opened the door for Houston, Galveston's neighbor, to
seize the opportunity instead. The
1914 completion of the Houston Ship Channel rendered Galveston's magnificent port obsolete.
Talk about perfect timing. This was the year the
Panama Canal opened. This was the year World War I
began, thereby creating a huge demand for oil to fuel
countless mechanized vehicles. If life was fair,
Galveston with its superior port should have been the
beneficiary of the oil boom. Instead Houston won the grand prize. Now that Houston held the upper hand,
Galveston's deepwater port remained a mere shell of its glorious
past for 100 years. Fortunately Galveston finally caught a break in
2000 when a billionaire named George Mitchell thought of
a way to put the underutilized port to good use.
Born in
Galveston in 1919, Mitchell had a rough childhood. His
mother died of a stroke when he was 13 and his deadbeat
father promptly packed him off to relatives who ignored him.
Forced to raise himself, Mitchell targeted education as his
best hope to escape poverty. Working odd jobs to pay his own way to
Texas A&M, Mitchell graduated at the top of his class as a
petroleum engineer. From there, Mitchell used his gift for finding oil to
become successful.
During the 70's,
OPEC imposed a ban on petroleum exports to the United
States. This drastic cut in oil production led to long
lines at the pump and rising gas prices. With OPEC's
foot on America's neck, Mitchell decided to look for a solution.
During the Eighties he invested $8 million in fracking
research. Say what you will about fracking,
Mitchell's innovations singlehandedly
rescued America from Arab oil dependence.
During the next
stage of his rags to riches career, Mitchell
created The Woodlands just north of
Houston. Known as the City of the Future,
Mitchell struck an ecological balance between nature
and progress by nesting his city within a Texas pine forest.
Mitchell was also known for his philanthropy. Donating a half billion dollars to Texas A&M,
Mitchell
enabled many wonderful projects such as the school's
astronomy program. He remains today as the top donor
in A&M history.
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Mitchell's sense of philanthropy extended to
his hometown. Upset
over Galveston's economic plight,
Mitchell put the city on his back and did his best to return it to
prosperity through a series of key investments.
Brainstorming ways to create more jobs,
Mitchell envisioned Galveston as a
potential cruise
ship port. He
began pursuing the cruise industry in the 80's, but
could not get anyone to
listen. Carnival Cruise Line was not interested and Galveston's Port Authority had given
up trying to get their attention. Frustrated, Mitchell
decided to do it himself. However, before he could
approach Carnival on his own, first he needed to convince
the city managers to agree to build a Cruise Ship Terminal
and a Walkover Bridge. Without a commitment to build
infrastructure, what was the point of talking with Carnival?
To his dismay, he was met with a total
lack of cooperation. Fortunately, Mitchell eventually
got his way, but it took considerable effort.
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According to
Douglas Matthews, former city manager of Galveston, over
the years
George Mitchell had poured a billion dollars into his
many projects on Galveston Island. One would think this
generosity
would get Mitchell a billion dollars worth of credibility, but apparently not. Matthews recalled how
Mitchell fought the Galveston City Council and Wharves Board over his request to build a cruise ship terminal
plus a
$750,000 cruise ship Walkover in the late 1980s.
Here is what
Matthews said:
"Galveston
badly needed a new source of revenue, so George
wanted to use the cruise industry as a way to turn the
island into a tourist destination. He correctly
saw the hotels as the perfect way to pump tourist dollars into our
economy, but here was the problem. It was too easy for
someone from Dallas or San Antonio to get up early and
drive straight to their ship. Leave that morning,
board that afternoon.
George needed a way to entice Texans to drive
to Galveston
a day or two early and stay in
a hotel prior to their cruise departure.
Noting that the drive in from Dallas was five hours, a
hotel could offer tourists a chance to rest while enjoying
the beach and the fine seafood restaurants. George came up with
a unique idea to make staying at the hotels preferable.
Galveston is so narrow, people could actually walk from
their hotel to the ship terminal. However, to do
so would require crossing an incredibly busy street on
departure day plus a train track. This would not
work for families with kids.
Noting the proximity of the hotels
to the ship terminal, George suggested building a bridge to connect the nearby
hotels to the cruise ship. Let's say someone
drives in from Houston on the day of the trip. First
they have to fight traffic to drop off their luggage and
family. Then someone has to drive the car to a
parking lot and take a shuttle back. This can take
up to an hour. Then they stand in long lines to
register. By the time they make it to the ship,
they're exhausted. Staying in a hotel can beat the
traffic. A bridge would eliminate
the need for passengers to dodge cars on the busy
street below while rolling their luggage
to the ship. By walking to their destination, the
guests could leave their cars safe in the hotel parking
lot and save taxi fare.
As George
explained it to me, the convenience of this arrangement
would give people a valid reason to drive in early as opposed
to arriving the day of departure. No one saw this but George.
The critics labeled
George's bridge idea as 'the Walkway to Nowhere.'
They
just couldn't see it as anything but a huge waste of
money. In defense of the obstinate
officials, this cruise project was a huge, costly gamble.
Not just the Walkover, but Galveston would also
need to build an expensive
cruise terminal without any guarantee the cruise ships
would come. No city official had the
courage to do it. It was beyond their imagination, far too
risky. For one thing, there was absolutely no demand,
no existing cruise market.
No one in Texas was banging down the doors begging to take a cruise
out of Galveston. This lack of interest explains
why the Port Authority officials
said no.
George blew his top,
but fortunately had the sense to wait till we were alone. Speaking out
of earshot, George said, 'Damn it, Doug, if they're not
going to do it, then I'm going to do it myself!"
Thank God George
had the vision to persist."
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This priceless interview with George Mitchell explains
what happened after the Galveston Port Authority rejected
his request.
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George Mitchell: "We worked hard to get the cruise ships down here
to Galveston. Oh,
yes, indeed we did.
I had a friend tell me,
"George, how in the hell did you get the
cruise ships down here? What a great move! We like visiting
Galveston. Hey, buddy, you're costing me money. My wife says we need to come down and buy some
real estate as well."
Sure enough, bringing in the cruise ships was an eye
opener. It made everybody realize something big is
going on down here. So now we're pushing to put two more
cruise ships at the Del Monte terminal. They would
have seven cruise ships in a row and you should get an
aerial
picture of that. Very impressive!
A lot of American cities would be jealous of
what we have here. I'm telling you,
they would be. Bringing the cruise
ships was a valuable addition to be sure.
Soon everybody's going to be saying the same
thing, "What the hell is
going on down in Galveston??"
There's an interesting story about that. I kept
asking the cruise terminal people to do something.
We had a committee,
but they weren't very strong, certainly not bold and I wasn't getting
anywhere. Every chance I got, I'd ask the Galveston Port
Authority,
"Hey, guys, you've got all this empty space down at the
docks. Why don't you
work on getting the cruise ships?"
They said, "George, we've tried. We don't have a chance.
Carnival doesn't
answer our calls, they don't give us the time of day."
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What a runaround! I got tired of listening to them. So I sent a
representative to Miami four years straight at my own
expense, five thousand dollars a pop, just to talk to the cruise
ship companies. "Hey, guys, why don't you come to Galveston?
Give it a try."
Every time my guys did that, Carnival would
just yawn and send the guys home
empty-handed. The Port people heard that
I struck out again and would send me a
message, "You're wasting your time,
Mitchell. You're wasting your money,
you're wasting your time, and you're wasting our
time. Give it up. They won't
come here. They are adamant there's
no market and
have said so repeatedly. Why don't you
listen for a change?"
No market? What kind of nonsense is
that?
Has anyone looked at a
map lately?
Finally I said, "Okay, give me a package to take to
the cruise people. Let me see what I can do." So I got the Galveston port people to say,
"This is what their taxes will be; this is what this
cost
will be; this is what that cost will be."
I was
impressed. These were good terms. They were
fair. Now I had
something I could put on the table. So
this time I decided to make the pitch
myself. I
got on the plane and took
the package to the
Carnival cruise ship people over in Miami.
They were pleased. They agreed with me
that the numbers looked pretty good.
Okay, I thought, finally they are starting to get interested.
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That's when it happened.
As long as I live, I will
never forget what came next. A
Carnival guy looks at
me and says, "George, where are the
customers going to come from?"
All the others nodded in agreement. Every man in the room had
a worried
frown on his face. With the deal hanging in
the balance, I looked at them dumbfounded.
Are these
guys
kidding with me? No! These men were dead serious!
They
didn't get it!! They actually did not get it at all.
So I spoke up. It was high time to teach these
guys a geography lesson.
"Gentlemen,
Texas is a very populous state.
17 million,
12 million people who live
within a 300 mile radius of Galveston. These
people are used to driving. NASA is our
next door neighbor. Houston, America's 4th
largest city, is down the street. This is an
untapped market! You men are looking at a gold mine!"
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They all started to blink.
If I didn't know better, they acted like this was the first time
they had ever heard such a radical concept. The
fourth largest city, huh. What do you know
about that? They peppered me with
question.
"George, is Houston really just down the street from
Galveston?"
"How far away
is Houston?"
Oh good grief.
Have these guys ever looked at a map? I couldn't help it, I raised my voice.
"Come on, guys,
Houston is just 50 miles away!
It is less than an hour's drive!"
They all looked at each other in
surprise.
An hour away?
Really?
That's when someone said, "Gosh, that's close enough for passengers to drive down!"
It took every ounce of my self-control to keep
a straight face.
Now they started to nod.
Hey, this might just work! They said, "Well,
George, we
will have to do some
serious advertising."
So I said, "Promise
me you will come to Galveston and we will help you do
the promotion for the first year. What do you need?"
They said they wanted $250,000 to begin promoting the
arrival of the cruise ships to Texas. I said, "Okay,
guys, that's a lot of money, but I will see what I can do."
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So I took the deal back to the Port Authority. That was 1992.
After the Port
Authority did the final
negotiations with Carnival, the company requested $250,000 from
the private sector to pay for a portion of their first
year's advertising budget.
Now I went about raising
the money. The Moody family, the Fertitta family,
and the Park Board each contributed $50,000. That
left us $100,000 short, so I threw the additional
$100,000 into the pot. That did it. Once we closed the deal with
Carnival, the Board finally found the courage to approve
the Terminal and the Walkover.
I was excited.
I could not believe after all that work, Carnival had
finally accepted the deal. Let's do this promotion and try it out!
Weren't they surprised!? Yes, almighty, it was a success from Day One
back in year 2000. After a year or two, statistics reported 75
percent of the people were driving in, not flying.
These were brand new customers from within that 300 mile radius I
had spoken
of. That made all
the difference in the world to Carnival. They expanded as fast as they could.
And then the
other companies smelled the bait and they came too. Royal Caribbean, Norwegian, Disney. But Carnival was the first.
Give them credit, they got the ball
rolling and look what happened."
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The
boost given to Galveston's economy by the
cruise industry was unbelievable.
Practically overnight Galveston's tourist industry
began to compete with the popular San Antonio Riverwalk for the almighty
tourist dollar in the State of Texas. With
new jobs being created right and left, Tourism was floating Galveston's
boat. In retrospect, it seems so obvious.
How could anyone have possibly overlooked the
cruise potential of Galveston? I
guess that is why George Mitchell was called
a 'Visionary'. He saw things
other people didn't.
Following Carnival's successful launch in
2000, within the space of three years,
Galveston became America's fourth busiest
cruise port behind three previously established
locations in Florida.
As
Mitchell hoped, a flood of cruise-bound
Texans drove down early. Not only did
the hotels thrive, all sorts of new
tourist-related attractions popped up.
Galveston had a water park, Moody Gardens,
an amusement park, plus island tours to see
the magnificent Victorian homes. And
let us not forget the beautiful
warm water beach within walking distance of
the hotels. Once families discovered
what a great spot Galveston was for kids,
they had plenty of reasons to come back.
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"But
George, where will the tourists
come from?"
Until George spoke
up, the Florida-based executives had been hopelessly locked
into the mind-set that Florida was sufficient.
The image of
flabbergasted George Mitchell staring in shock at those
dumbfounded Carnival executives tickles me no end. I
mean, seriously, it is one thing for someone to not know
where Kazakhstan is located. But these were
college-educated men who claimed to be the sharpest knives
in the drawer.
As I said, within three years Galveston was the fourth
largest cruise port in the country. Not Boston.
Not New York. Not Baltimore. Not New Orleans.
Not San Diego. Not Los Angeles. Not San
Francisco. Not Seattle.
Well, duh, has anyone
in this room ever
heard of Houston?
Houston moved in front
of all those cruise ports, but no could see it but George.
It staggers the mind
that Mitchell had to explain Texas has the second largest population in
America. Not just that, Texas was an
untapped market. It was true
that Eastern
USA residents were used to cruising
the Caribbean. But what about that mysterious body of water known as
the Gulf of Mexico?
Why should Texans fly to Florida when
they can
just drive down to Galveston?
This story
explains why
George Mitchell came to be known as the man who saved
Galveston.
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FEBRUARY 2001
RICK HAS AN IDEA
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With my life in crisis, I caught a
lucky break from Tom Easley. Being around Tom and
my friends from yesteryear helped me get back in touch
with the person I used to be. On the plane trip home
from my ski trip to Lake Tahoe, I asked myself if there
was a way I could instill the special spirit of the
Eighties into the current Millennium generation at the
studio. Although the modern
version of SSQQ was packed with students, the studio lacked any sense of community. The Salsa
people had no interest in the Swing people who had no
interest in the Country-Western people who... well, you
get the point.
If I could not be happy in love,
at least I could start enjoying my studio again. The
best way to regain my pride would be to stop feeling
sorry for myself and get to know the current generation
of students better.
Now that I was single again, maybe there was something I
could do to stir the Magic Carpet Ride back to life.
What the studio needed was an adventure. That is
how Tom Easley's ski group had formed back in the
Eighties. Unfortunately, a ski trip would have to
wait till next year. I needed something sooner. What else?
My mind wandered back to Alan Fox and
the cruise trip suggestion he had made in January.
One reason I had dismissed the idea was my
dissatisfaction with our previous cruise trip.
The 1998 Jamaica trip had been Alan's idea.
I suppose the trip
was mildly successful. 30 people had joined.
I knew for a fact the total of guests would have been larger if
New Orleans was not the departure point. People balked at
the added time and expense of traveling so far. Who wants to drive six hours to New
Orleans and six hours back? Who wants to drive to
Houston Intercontinental, pay to leave your car at the
airport, pay a taxi to get to a New Orleans
hotel, then another taxi to the cruise ship.
Expensive. It all adds up.
And guess who
they complained to? Already in a bad mood, I did
not handle the grumbling very well. I did not
enjoy the cruise trip either. Due to my acute burn-out,
the Jamaica trip felt too much like work. I stayed in my
cabin most of the time reading books and playing
computer chess. I could not wait
for the trip to end.
Fortunately I
did manage to pay at least some attention. I noticed how much fun our guests had dancing every
night. They also enjoyed the dance lessons I
taught on sea days. Indeed, the cruise trip had
been so much fun our guests, they wanted to do it again.
However, due to my lousy attitude, I said forget it. That was 1998. This was
2001. Now that I was single again, the Seesaw
Effect kicked in. My unhappiness combined with my
ski trip realization gave me a compelling reason to try a
second
cruise trip.
One thing in particular stuck in my
mind. Alan said the cruise industry had just come
to Galveston. That change made all the difference in the
world. One hour to Galveston, leave the car in a
nearby parking lot. Not only was this far more
convenient, the price tag was cut nearly in half.
I hoped promoting a cruise would help
me regain my mojo. What would happen if I opened up a
little and stopped avoiding people? It wouldn't
hurt to be more sociable. Anything to deal with
this constant loneliness.
Alan was happy to
arrange our 2001 Trip. Assigning a lady named Ann Adams
to be my travel agent, let the bold new experiment begin.
Step One was to
create a flyer
complete with pricing and itinerary. I placed copies in every room
at the studio.
Step Two, I
announced the August cruise to the classes I
taught. Step Three, I asked my instructors to do the same in their
classes.
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Step Four was the personal touch. In addition to general announcements, I
began to pull students aside and tell them how much fun
the trip was going to be. I knew from experience
that personal contact worked better than just spreading
flyers around the studio. Sure enough, the
personal touch worked. Not only did people respond
with interest, I was starting to make their
acquaintance. Slowly but surely I began coming out
of my shell.
I saved my best trick for last. It was time for Step Five. My 1998
decision to create an Email Newsletter
had coincided
with the studio's upcoming Jamaica trip.
Before we departed, my computer friend Gary
Richardson had given me
some good advice.
"If you intend to write a
Newsletter story about Jamaica, be sure to take
lots of
photographs.
The
best way to endear yourself to the guests will
be to post their pictures on your website. Those
pictures will let their friends see them having fun.
The more pictures you post, the more those who
stayed behind will be envious. Who knows,
maybe some of your Newsletter readers will want to go on your next trip."
"Gary, I don't own a
camera."
"Let me sell you a
Mavica digital camera. That will
allow you to transfer your photographs
directly to your computer. That
way you can skip the lengthy process of scanning
camera images into your computer."
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Taking Gary's
advice, following the 1998 trip I
posted a recap complete with photos on my
website. Unfortunately my bad
attitude was on full display. I made
sarcastic comments about Jamaica with
its crime, drugs, poverty,
and beggars. Plus I complained
about the hassle of getting to New
Orleans. The trip was quickly
forgotten which explains why
only a handful of
people knew about the 1998 Jamaica
Cruise in 2001. Hmm. Why not use the
Jamaica trip to promote my
2001 trip? In my next email
Newsletter, I told my readers where to look
on the SSQQ website for the story.
Talk about an
ace in the hole! No one paid much
attention to my lame copy, but the
photos from the Jamaica trip created an
absolute sensation. In particular,
they loved
hearing how BJ and Renee had used this
trip as the final test of their love.
BJ and Renee had such a good time, they
announced their engagement at the end of
the trip. When I pointed out their
names could be found on the 1999 SSQQ Wedding List, all
kinds of light bulbs went off.
Wow! The idea
that Slow Dance and Romance magic
worked at sea as well on land was more
than the studio's love-crazed singles
could handle. Inspired by the cool
pictures from 1998, all they
talked about was going on my upcoming
cruise trip.
Given that I was
pretty cynical about Love at the time, I
was hardly in the mood to share in their
excitement. Nevertheless, in
Hindsight I can see that the seeds for
the upcoming SSQQ Love Boat Era were already
intact.
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A
major reason for writing this book is to share my reasons
for believing 'Predestination' may exist.
Here is my favorite quote about Predestination. It was
made by the eminent physicist Stephen Hawking.
"I
have noticed people who claim everything is predestined.
They say we can do nothing to change
our Fate, yet they have the
curious habit to look first
before they cross the road."
I have mixed feelings about that
statement. Before I offer my opinion, let me admit
that while I believe in Fate, I have no idea as to what
extent it plays in our lives. Do we have Free Will
most of the time or just some of the time? Do we have
any Free Will at all? Who knows. The extent to
which Fate plays in our daily existence is one of Life's
Great Mysteries. Or at least it is a mystery to me.
Even though I firmly believe in Fate,
nevertheless I
approach every decision as if I am in charge of my own
Destiny.
I may be wrong about that, but it doesn't matter. For
me to enjoy life, I always assume I am steering my own ship.
Not
only do I look both ways before crossing the
street, I put on my seat belt, watch my diet, exercise
regularly and have yearly checkups. In other words, I live by the Rules of Reality
every moment of my life. Where do these Rules come
from? Experience. Through experience I have
developed a sense of probability and likelihood that
helps me make decisions. If I cross
the street without looking, in all likelihood I will be hit
by a car.
However the presence of Fate changes everything.
I have observed moments where the
Rules of Reality appear to go out the window. When
that happens, I blame Fate. Fate is the wild card, the
joker so to speak. Not very often, but periodically
I will witness a coincidence so weird and so totally
unlikely that it violates my sense of Reality.
When that happens, I assume the Force of Fate has superseded
the Rules of Reality.
The only way to explain what I am talking about is to offer
some examples. Why not start with the event that
changed my life?
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With seven children in attendance,
Maria
Ballantyne was a daily fixture at my school. Not a day
passed when I did not catch a glance. If I saw Mrs.
Ballantyne
talking to someone such as her children, the Headmaster or
other mothers, I would stop to watch her in action. At
least once a week I passed right by her in the hallway.
Over the course of nine years, there were probably 1,000
times when we could have met. But that never happened.
Not once did we connect even though St. John's was a very
small school. Let me add two things. Despite my
hero worship, not once did I approach her. I had too
much respect for her privacy to say a word. Nor was
there anyone else in the school under my scrutiny.
Just Maria Ballantyne. One would think by rules of
random physics I would have at least caught her eye.
Nope, never happened.
Don't you think it is odd that
we never ran into each other ONCE in nine years? To
me, it was like I was hiding in plain sight. I was
invisible to Maria Ballantyne. I was her secret
admirer.
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Hoping to save money for college, I worked after school at
my grocery four to five days a week. Over the course
of three years, I was at the store roughly 700 times. Not
once did Maria Ballantyne come into my store. WITH ONE
EXCEPTION. In the midst of the worst crisis of my
life, the woman I had secretly selected as the world's
finest mother not only walked into my store, she took an
immediate interest in me, a total stranger. Can you
imagine how weird it felt to have my 'Hero' appear out of
thin air? Can you imagine how overwhelmed I felt when
she decided to tell me her own rags to riches life story as a way to cheer me
up and motivate me?
As I listened, I
was fully aware that
her visit defied the odds.
I do not know how to properly calculate the odds, so let's
keep it simple. Zero times in nine years at the
school, one time in three years at the grocery store.
Long odds, yes? Personally, it felt like one in a
million. Sure, her visit could have been a random
fluke. But I don't believe that. I think a more
likely explanation for Mrs. Ballantyne's shocking visit was
that God guided her to me as answer to my prayer for help.
That is what I mean about bending the Rules of Reality.
This moment felt so much like a powerful demonstration
of Divine Intervention, I believed I had just witnessed a Miracle.
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Ultra-Serious |
Coincidence
Lucky Break
Act of Kindness |
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Mrs. Ballantyne fails to notice Rick at SJS for 9 years only to
magically appear during the most serious crisis of his life. The
ensuing conversation in the grocery store parking lot gives Rick the
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Here is another strange story along similar lines. It
is Christmas Day, 1973. My girlfriend Vanessa has just
left town. Her checkered past has forced her to move
to Oregon to make a fresh start. Of course I did not
know that was the real reason. I had to find out the
truth of her betrayal the
hard way. When I called long distance to ask if I
could visit her over the Holidays, Vanessa revealed her old
boyfriend was at her house. She claimed he had missed
her so much that he showed up out of desperation, but this
was such an obvious lie, I finally caught on that she had
been seeing him all along.
On my desk there was a
letter from the Psychology Department informing me I had
just been terminated from the program.
This is my Darkest Hour.
I was a failure in every possible way I could think of.
My depression knew no limit.
I was alone in my apartment, friendless and sinking fast.
I was badly out of control with rage, feelings of
helplessness, despair. There was no one to turn to.
Well aware that I was in serious trouble, I thought to myself that
I could really use Mrs. Ballantyne's help again. Fat
chance of that. At that exact moment, the idea to turn
on the TV crossed my mind. A movie titled Ben
Hur had just come on, so I watched.
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Ben
Hur is sentenced to spend the rest of his life as a slave in
the Roman galleys for a crime he did not commit. The
man has nothing to live for. There is no such thing as
escape from the captivity of the Roman galleys. More
likely he will die before he even reaches his destination.
Crossing the hot sands of the Judean desert in chains,
Ben Hur is cruelly denied water by the Roman guards.
Dying of thirst in the extreme heat, Ben Hur collapses.
On the ground near death, Ben Hur whispers, "God, please help
me..."
Seconds
later, a stranger comes up to
give him water. A nearby
Roman soldier stares in
disbelief at this bold act of
defiance. Just when the
man is prepared to use his whip,
Ben Hur is shocked to see the guard
suddenly cower and move away. Of course Ben Hur
has no idea who this man is, but
he is inspired nonetheless
because he recognizes the
divinity of Jesus. What an amazing scene. Jesus has appeared
out of nowhere to offer a bowl
of water to a suffering man full
of despair. This
compassionate
act of kindness gives Ben Hur the courage
he needs to continue on despite
an absolutely hopeless
situation.
Deeply touched by this powerful scene,
I broke down in a torrent of tears. It took quite a
while, but when I recovered, I discovered my own sense of
hope had been restored. Fully aware how Mrs. Ballantyne
had once done something similar for me, I was struck by
the power of an unexpected act of Kindness to make a
profound difference in the life
of a crippled person.
I won't say I was healed. I was
still in a great deal of pain. What I will say is the
coincidence of seeing that dramatic scene restored my will to
carry on. Was it an accident that I turned on the TV
to the exact channel at the exact moment necessary to catch
this movie? Or did an invisible being put the idea to
watch TV in my mind at the perfect moment?
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Suspicious |
Coincidence
Wish Come True |
1973 |
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The movie 'Ben Hur' combined with Jackie's revelations regarding Vanessa
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So why exactly have I told these two
stories? By my count, I have hit Rock Bottom six times
during my life. What strikes me as odd is that each
time, I was rescued from my misery by a very strange, totally
unexpected circumstance. To me, it was as if my Fate
included a fair amount of suffering, and yet the
Universe had deliberately provided a safety net. Now
following my Christmas Eve decision to divorce, this curious
safety net phenomenon took place again. Wallowing in depression,
alienated from my beloved dance studio and deeply cynical about love, Tom Easley's
ski trip phone call turned out to
be a very lucky break indeed.
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Suspicious |
Lucky Break
Coincidence |
2001 |
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Tom Easley's
timely ski trip phone call sets Rick on his path to redemption
from a dark period of his life |
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So here is my point. Was Tom's
timely phone call an act of Fate or just one of those
things? Was Mrs. Ballantyne's appearance at my store
an act of Fate or did she just happen to need groceries as
she was driving by? It is Christmas Day, so naturally a
movie such as Ben Hur will be playing.
Were any of these three events an act of Divine Intervention?
Or was Rick
Archer a deluded, gullible fool?
The answer is that I will never
know. 'Fate' is so easily disguised that we may
be undergoing a Fated Event and never know it. That is
why I consider every one of my Supernatural Events to be 'Suspected'.
There will always be room for doubt. That said,
depending on the Probability, Timing, Impact, plus an
X-Factor I refer to as 'Weirdness', some events are
far more Suspicious than others. Mrs. Ballantyne's
visit was a serious coincidence while Tom's phone
call was only slightly out of the ordinary. That is
why I listed Mrs.
Ballantyne's visit as 'Serious' while Tom's phone call
was labeled as 'Suspicious'.
Nevertheless, the Timing
of Tom's phone call was so important I did not
dismiss it. Years later when I looked back on the
events that led me to Marla and to the Love Boat
Era, Tom's phone call was a significant moment in what I
call a 'Path', a Countdown to Destiny.
"Synchronicity" is a term
coined by Swiss psychotherapist Carl Jung. Dr. Jung
was a lifelong student of paranormal events such as Lucky
Breaks, Bad Breaks, Meaningful Coincidences, Omens, Weird
situations, Dreams and Premonitions. Jung noticed that
certain seemingly unrelated events occasionally turned out to be
connected in very unusual ways. Given how perfectly
certain events unfolded
in clockwork fashion, Jung suspected the Hidden Hand of God
was involved in coordinating this Path. Situations
such as a Path did not happen very often, but when they did,
Jung believed these events were 'Synchronized' by the
Force of Fate.
Synchronicity is an interesting theory, but certainly not something I
can prove. What I can say is that I have noticed times
in my life where various events took place that seemed too
well-coordinated to be random. One of those moments
was the Dance Path that led me to my career. I would
one day conclude I was walking a Path to Marla and the Love
Boat Era at this very moment. In my opinion, the 2001
Trip was the beneficiary of a series of seemingly
unconnected events that unfolded with exquisite Timing.
Let me point out I did not reach this
'Synchronicity' conclusion as it took place, but
rather well afterwards. Soren Kierkegaard once said
that Life must be lived forwards, but it can only be
understood backwards.
One
way Fate conceals itself is by delaying the Impact of an
event.
Rarely do we know the meaning of an event until we see its
future Impact, so the danger is that we forget. When
it comes to 'Cause and Effect', the longer the Effect
is delayed, the more likely it is to overlook the
connection. That is why it helps to keep track of
curious events so we can retrace them backwards.
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Cruise Trip Synchronicity |
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September
2000, George Mitchell brings the cruise industry to
Galveston |
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December 2000, Judy asks for a divorce on Christmas Eve.
Now single again, the Seesaw flips. |
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Early January 2001, Alan Fox suggests a cruise trip to
clear my mind. I reject the offer, but the seed is
planted. |
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Late
January, Tom Easley invites me to go skiing.
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Mid
February, I undergo a transformation on the ski trip and
rededicate myself to the studio |
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Late
February, upon my return to Houston, I call Alan Fox and
arrange a studio cruise trip for August |
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My
1998
SSQQ Cruise Trip to Jamaica was largely a flop. My
2001 SSQQ Cruise Trip would turn out to be sensational.
What was the difference?
Timing.
Was there a cruise
ship in Galveston in 1998? No. We had to go to
New Orleans instead. Was there a cruise ship in
Galveston in 2001? Yes. Given the
proximity of Galveston
to Houston, an hour's drive, this became a major reason why my 2001 trip caught on
so fast. And WHY was there a cruise ship in Galveston?
George Mitchell.
"In Sync"
is a term that describes what happens
when all the moving parts fit together
perfectly. Things just seem to
click without lifting a finger.
George Mitchell was responsible for
adding the finishing touch to my trip.
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"Gentlemen,
Texas is a very populous state. 17 million, 12 million
of whom live
within a 300 mile radius of Galveston. NASA is
Galveston's
next door neighbor. Houston, the 4th
largest city in America, is just over the causeway. This is an
untapped market! You men are looking at a gold mine!"
No truer words had
ever been spoken. Untapped market indeed!
Speaking to some
of my students, I had yet to meet
someone who had
taken a trip out of Galveston. In
fact, due to the expense and inconvenience of flying to
Florida or New Orleans, the cruise ports
nearest to Houston pre-George Mitchell, very few
students had
ever
been
on a cruise ship period.
That was about to
change. Talk about an idea whose
time has come. The
convenience of driving a mere 50 miles
down the freeway
and dancing four straight nights at sea with
their
friends was an incredibly appealing
thought.
Timing is Everything.
To my welcome
surprise, starting in March one person
after another signed on.
The
total grew steadily. 2 people
joined one day; 3 people joined the
next. It did not take long to realize I had
"accidentally" (wink wink)
lucked into one of the most significant
business opportunities of my life.
Of course I had no idea where this would
lead at the time. In Hindsight, I
am pleased to say I had begun walking my
Path to Redemption.
Once the idea caught
on, the momentum was unbelievable.
A crowd generates a crowd, so what
started as a pleasant campfire quickly turned
into a raging bonfire. By the end of March our
total reached 50. By April it was
60. Each month the
number kept climbing. 70 in May,
80 in June, 90 in July. One week
before departure on August 18, we hit
the Magic 100 total.
I
shook my head in amazement. Wow!
100 guests. Look what happens when
I put my heart into it. As I
reviewed the list, I sat
back and smiled with satisfaction.
It had been a long time since my days as Leader of the Pack.
Although I was 50 years old, it was nice
to know I still had the touch.
However, I also felt
wistful. What a shame I was so
much more effective as a Leader when I
was miserable. Would it always have to
be that way?
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