PAY
IT FORWARD
A SIMPLE ACT OF
KINDNESS
CHAPTER three:
break of a lifetime
Written by Rick
Archer
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Rick
Archer's Note:
When Mrs.
Ballantyne said that receiving an unexpected college
scholarship was her break of a lifetime, I felt goosebumps. Ten years earlier,
I had said the exact same
thing about my college scholarship to Johns Hopkins.
For that matter, I wonder if Mr. Salls had
said the same thing about his scholarships to Exeter and
Harvard.
The more Mrs. Ballantyne told me
about her past, the more
astonished I became at the parallels in our childhood
experience. Fact of the matter, I had no business
being at St. John's. It had taken a fluke of enormous magnitude to gain admission. But if I did not belong
at St. John's, I wondered if Mrs. Ballantyne ever thought
the same thing. Given her childhood as a penniless near-orphan, she had
no business being here either. Fortunately, the
unexpected gift of a college education had opened doors that
never previously existed.
I am sure Mrs.
Ballantyne never have dreamed she would find her Double at St. John's of all
places.
Considering how similar my life
was to hers,
now I understood why Mrs.
Ballantyne had decided to share
her life story in the
grocery store
parking lot.
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At the moment, the concept of Fate
was very much on my mind. As I sat in her living room,
what were the odds that Mrs. Ballantyne with an impoverished childhood would one day
make it to St. John's? And what on earth did she think
when she discovered that I had a near-identical story?
Sitting here in this beautiful house,
I could not help but envy Mrs. Ballantyne's rags to riches
journey.
It is probably just as well that I had no idea Mr.
Salls had a River Oaks house and a story to match Mrs.
Ballantyne. I was already feeling enough Twilight Zone
vibes as it was. It would not be
till 40 years down the road till I
realized Mr. Salls had a story to match ours. And yet
we all managed to end up in a world inhabited by
millionaires and billionaires. Three rags to riches
stories in the same place and all three people were
intimately connected. It truly boggles the
mind. So far I had
not matched the rags to riches status, but that day would
come thanks to this odd part-time job as a Disco teacher.
Little did I know that my Magic Carpet Ride had just
begun (but that's another story.)
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February 1978
college at
Mary Hardin Baylor
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"Mrs. Ballantyne,
please tell me more about
your break of a lifetime."
"I thought
college was out of the question. I was resigned to finding
whatever work I could after high school, but I had nursed a
secret desire to go to college. Besides
tennis, I had nothing else to do but study. I
made straight A's, but what difference did that make? I
was a girl. I had been raised in a family that did not value education for girls. In the
eyes of Uncle Gus, girls don't need to go to college.
They learn
how to put on makeup, look pretty, get married and get pregnant.
That was the expectation. Besides,
what difference did it make if I wanted to go to college.
There was no money in our home. Money was very tight
during the Depression."
"So where does Sam
Maceo come in? You were living in San Antonio, right?"
"Yes, I was
living in San Antonio and I had not thought about Mr. Maceo in
years. It started with
George. I had given up on college dreams. Seriously, I had no idea where the money
would come from, so I ordered myself to quit thinking about it
because it made me so depressed. Then one day my brother
George sent me some money he had saved up. He included a
note that told me to use it for college. Thanks to George, I was able to attend Mary
Hardin-Baylor, a women's school in Belton, Texas."
"But that doesn't
make any sense. I thought you said
George was poor just like you."
"I see you have
been paying attention. Yes, George
was very poor, so I asked myself the same question. It's a
long story. Do you really want
to know how I got the money??"
My eyes widened at the
strange look on her face. I nodded and said yes. When I
saw Mrs. Ballantyne frown, I had a hunch this was going to be a
doozy. Turned out I was right.
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"It is one
thing to say a gangster paid for college, that is shocking
enough. However I don't share the details very often. Back when you and my children went to St. John's, this was a story
I did not dare tell anyone. However, we've gone this far so I guess it wouldn't hurt to tell you the
full story.
To be honest, when I
saw the money order that came with George's letter, I was very
skeptical. I was almost certain there was something George was
not telling me. I knew for a fact that George could barely pay
his own way to A&M. For that matter, the previous year, George had almost gotten himself thrown out of Texas A&M
because he could not pay his tuition. So where did
this money come from? Unfortunately George refused to tell me for the longest time. He was so
secretive I thought he had robbed a bank. I was worried about
George, but maybe the less I knew, the better.
I was enjoying my newfound
freedom too much to lose this college opportunity by being nosy."
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"Did you ever
find out what George was
hiding from you?"
"Yes, but
it took a while. George knew how much
I wanted to go to college. I made
very good grades,
but it all seemed futile. My aunt and uncle had children of
their own to worry about and my father barely knew I was
alive. My college chances looked bleak. So just as I was
about to finish high school, out of nowhere George sent me
his letter with money enclosed. I knew from the start something was fishy, but George
was at A&M 200 miles away, so it was easy for him to
evade my questions.
When I finally learned the truth, I was stunned.
Sam Maceo was paying my way! I couldn't believe it. I had not seen Mr. Maceo in
over
two years. He not only remembered me,
he wanted to help."
"Why do
you suppose Mr. Maceo did that?" I asked. "I
mean, paying your way to college was
quite a gesture."
Mrs.
Ballantyne smiled.
"That is a very good question. I have
George to thank. He was
the one who paved the way."
"What did George do to help you get a scholarship
from a mob boss?"
"The Sam Maceo
I knew was not what most people think.
Everyone has seen The Godfather, but that was
not Sam Maceo. I suppose he had a dark side, but I
certainly never saw it. There was no violence in
Galveston. He made sure of that. And yes, he
broke laws, but his activities were victimless crimes.
In the meantime, his nightclubs were bringing in tons of
tourists who filled up the hotels and keep the restaurants
hopping.
Sam Maceo would
have been elected Mayor if that was something he cared
about. He was the most civic-minded person I ever met.
In particular he had a soft spot for the immigrant families
on the Island. He was an immigrant from Sicily who knew how
tough it was to get established in the U.S. Mr. Maceo took a special
interest in me thanks to my brother George.
He had
helped George out of a really tough
spot a couple years earlier."
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"You said earlier
that Sam Maceo knew you from the restaurant, but
George was not part of that. How did
he know George?"
"You're right, Mr. Maceo knew me through my uncle's
restaurant. However I don't recall their
paths crossing because George lived on
the other end of the island. If
forced to guess, Mr. Maceo might have
met George once or twice because he
knew my father. If so, at best George was
no more than a
pebble on the beach to this busy,
important man.
Meanwhile George was at his wits end.
It was his Junior year in college and he
was in
danger of getting kicked out of school
because he could not pay his monthly
tuition. Back in those days, Texas
A&M didn't cut anyone a bit of slack.
You paid your monthly tuition on time or
you left school. Maybe they had a
two-week grace period, I'm not sure.
But whatever the deadline was, George
was so broke he was certain he would
have to drop out of school. This
drove him crazy because his education
meant the world to him. George was
desperate to continue, but time was
running out.
Throughout college George had worked all
sorts of part-time jobs, but for
some reason the day came when all his
sources of money dried up at once.
George was frantic. He had no one to help him.
His friends at A&M were
just as broke as he was, his father had
never offered a dime, no rich
uncle, nothing. But George was and
still is the most determined man I
have ever met. His entire existence was
wrapped around getting his education.
George despised our father, but he had
exhausted all other options. That
left George with no choice but
swallow his pride. George wired our father to
see if he could help. When my
father got the wire, as usual he was broke.
No surprise there. I suppose the poker cards
had not been breaking his way or he
dropped his last dime on a dame.
But Mike knew George would not have asked
unless he was desperate.
Before he replied to George with the bad news,
Mike decided to go see if his boss could help."
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"Where did your
father get the nerve to approach the
Godfather?"
Mrs. Ballantyne
laughed.
"You know
what, that's a good question.
But that's exactly what my father
did. Mike went up to Sam Maceo and said,
"Mr. Maceo, my son George is the top student in
his engineering class at A&M. He studies really hard!
But he has run out of money and the
school is going to kick him out if he
can't pay. Do you think you can
help?"
Without
a word, Sam Maceo reached in his pocket,
pulled out a billfold and handed
my father a hundred dollar bill. Mike's eyes grew
wide. That was a lot of money in
those days, a lot of money, maybe the equivalent
of five times that amount today. Typical of my
father, he knew George only needed $39. So
my deadbeat father went to a bank and split the
money in half. He wired a $50
money order to George and kept the
other $50 for booze, babes and bets.
Meanwhile George had no idea
what was going on. He was shocked that his father had come
through. What a break! But
here's the odd thing. Mike had not
told George where the money came
from. Unbelievable. Mike
steals half the money and pretends to be
the hero. That's my father for
you. What a champ!"
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"So what happened after that?"
"Many years later
George found out that Sam Maceo
went behind my father's back. Mr.
Maceo was a very intelligent man.
He found it very unlikely that a loser
like my father had a son who was the top
student at A&M. This was so
difficult to believe that he had to be curious
to know if my father had been telling
the truth or just trying to hustle up some
gambling money. So I am certain Mr. Maceo made
inquiries. Not only was my father
telling the truth, he learned that
George was barely scraping by. Mr.
Maceo was so impressed, he made sure George got a
big surprise. Mr. Maceo sent word to George
that he wanted to pay the remaining
tuition for George to graduate. George
was overwhelmed. He had no idea
what was going on, but that offer had
come at the perfect time. George vowed never
to forget what Mr. Maceo had done for him."
"So George received the same gift as you,
but his came first."
"Yes. And I
think Mr. Maceo was so impressed with
George that he decided to take a gamble
on me as well."
"Mrs. Ballantyne,
I'm confused about something. How
did George find out your father split
the money in half?"
"George is the
kind of guy who refuses
to leave a rock unturned. After Sam
Maceo contacted him, he could
not rest until he understood why a man
who barely knew him had been so kind.
At some point, George confronted his
father and got the story about the money
order. However,
there was a twist neither George nor his father knew
about. A few years after
George graduated from A&M,
he met someone who knew the inside scoop.
George discovered Mr. Maceo
had personally checked on him
with Texas A&M.
Apparently Maceo did not believe a
word my father had told him. Top
student in his class?
Ridiculous. The thought of some
immigrant kid from Galveston standing at the top
of his class was unheard of, much less a
kid with a father like ours.
Let's
face it, my father didn't have much credibility,
so Mr. Maceo had every right to be
suspicious.
Very few children of the immigrants here in
Galveston were good students. Therefore,
if it was true,
that accomplishment would put George heads and shoulders above the
rest. When Mr.
Maceo found out that
George was indeed at the top of his class, he
wanted to help. Like I said, Mr. Maceo was an immigrant
just like my father, so he knew first-hand how tough
it was to make it here in America. Mr. Maceo knew my father
was a dubious character, so
this told him George had to be special to
overcome the death of his mother and his father's
abandonment. After pegging George as an
ambitious kid who was determined to rise
beyond his circumstances, from this
point on Mr. Maceo not only followed George's
progress, he sent regular money wires to
pay the tuition."
"Did George ever meet Sam Maceo in person or
talk to him?"
"That's a good
question, but I don't know the exact
answer. I don't think they had
ever spoken prior to Mr. Maceo's decision to hand my
father $100. However, after that,
yes, I imagine they spoke in person,
but if so I don't know the details. Mind you, the entire story
was unbeknownst to me at the time.
For much of my first year of college I had no idea Mr. Maceo was helping George
or me.
So here is what I think happened.
Mr. Maceo was so
impressed with George that one day he
remembered me from our days chatting at the Snug Harbor
restaurant.
Since I lived in
San Antonio, at some point Mr. Maceo asked
my father how I was
doing. Mike replied that I
had the harebrained idea to go to college, but there wasn't any
money. Typical of my father, he quickly
added that it didn't matter.
"Don't
worry about Maria, she don't need no college.
She can get a job as a
clerk, type a little, answer the phone. Or better yet,
she's pretty. She can get married and have babies."
I was a girl, so what
difference did it make if I wanted to go to
college? That's my father
for you. What a prince. But Mr.
Maceo saw things differently. Without
telling my father, he contacted George.
When George told him I made straight A's
in high school and was dying to go to college, Mr.
Maceo told George he would
like to pay my way to college. And
that's the story. That is how I went to college! Sam Maceo was a better father to
me than my own father."
"But
wasn't it risky taking money from a
mobster? Don't they always expect something in return?"
Seeing
the curious expression on my face, Mrs. Ballantyne
shrugged her shoulders.
"Well, to
begin with, since I did not know where the
money was coming from, I accepted it
guilt-free. If there were any
strings attached, no one ever told me. When George sent
the money, I was overjoyed, but I
was also suspicious. I wrote
George
and demanded to know where he got the
money. He fibbed and explained he
had saved up the money from his summer job.
Furthermore, now that he had an extra
job at school, George promised to keep
sending money. He added how
pleased he was to finally be in a
position to help. I took his word
for it and enrolled in college.
However, I still
had my doubts. Finally I couldn't
take it anymore. I had to know
what was going on. The next time I saw
George in person, it was Thanksgiving. I
pulled him aside and asked him to
explain a little more about that extra job
he had mentioned. When George
got one of those deer in the headlights
expressions, I saw right through him.
"Okay, George,"
I demanded, "it's time to fess up.
Did you rob a bank?"
"No, no,
Maria, it's not like that.
There's nothing for you to worry
about."
"Bullshit!
You tell me the truth right now or I'm
going to drop out of college and get
pregnant with the first boy I meet!"
George didn't know
whether I was bluffing or not, but he
saw how mad I was and caved in on the spot. He admitted
that Sam Maceo was paying my way. I
was so shocked you could have knocked me
over with a feather. George said that Mr. Maceo had been so impressed by
his performance at Texas
A&M, he decided to help out his shy sister as well. Mr. Maceo had promised George he would pay my way to Mary
Hardin-Baylor for all four years."
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Mrs.
Ballantyne paused to sip her coffee, then
continued.
"I didn't know
what to think. It was strange to
find my
education bankrolled by the Godfather,
but then I realized I didn't care.
The Sam Maceo
I knew was a man I respected. He
was not violent. He was polite to
everyone, very outgoing. He cared
about little people like me and George.
He never insulted
people, but they got his message anyway. In
the eyes of many, Sam Maceo was seen
more as a benefactor than evil presence.
He came all the way from Sicily without any
money or education, yet here he was the
most important man in the city. I admired
him for that.
People
called him 'Mr. Galveston' and I can see
why. He was more businessman than mobster.
Let me give you an example. After
the great storm, they built a seawall
and placed the
fabulous Galvez
Hotel right on the
beach. They hoped tourism would
revive the economy, but it didn't work.
The hotel stayed largely empty.
Mr. Maceo saw an opening and
built a popular casino called the
Balinese Room right across the
street from the Hotel Galvez. Pure
magic. Now people flocked
from all over Texas to the
island to see a show, gamble, have a drink.
Then he started bringing in headliners
like Bob Hope and Frank Sinatra.
Now people from all over the country
were headed to Galveston. The next thing you know, the hotel was
booked solid. Sam Maceo put the
economy of Galveston on his back on and
personally restored the prosperity.
The
only problem was that his business was illegal due to Prohibition.
But most people on the island thought
Prohibition was sheer idiocy. There were a lot of
people who liked to drink bootleg liquor and a
lot of people who liked to gamble.
As for prostitution, who was I to judge?
Yes, Mr. Maceo was a gangster, but in my
eyes he was also
a good man.
I was young
at the time and didn't
really understand why Mr. Maceo was
helping me. Later on, George and I
talked about it. George believed
Mr. Maceo understood the importance
of education as a way to give the
children of immigrants equal footing
here in America. He knew
how tough it was to be an immigrant and he
helped everyone he could if he
believed they were trying hard.
What
mattered to Sam Maceo was that George and I were good
kids. He also knew how poorly my father had
treated us. To him, that wasn't right.
In his book, we both deserved better. Even though
we had gotten some rotten breaks, Mr. Maceo was impressed
that George and I continued to work hard in school without any
encouragement. I believe our situation
must have reminded him of himself when he landed
in America. That is why Mr. Maceo felt a
kinship with both of us. He was Italian,
we were Greek, but it didn't matter to him. He wanted
to help the children of immigrants on
the island to
succeed.
"Galveston needs to nurture its native
sons."
He felt a responsibility to lift
us up. That is the way I remember
Sam Maceo."
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Mrs. Ballantyne
got quiet for a moment, then laughed.
"I have to
tell you something. Mr. Maceo was so
impressed when George graduated at the top of
his class. He was just as proud of my
brother as if George was his own son.
He sent George a message that said he expected
George to do a better job as a father than my
own father. George really took that to
heart. He became determined to be a great
father.
Mr. Maceo got such a kick out of helping George,
he decided to try it again with me. Can
you imagine?? A nobody kid like me?
A worthless girl? What a break!
Totally unexpected. I could not be more grateful. Now I had my
chance just like George did. I owe my
college education to Sam Maceo. George
too. We both
owe so much to this man."
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Mrs. Ballantyne
pointed
to the family pictures on tables and the
living room wall.
"These
pictures tell the story. These pictures show
what Sam Maceo did for me. I spent my entire childhood dreaming that I
would someday have a family like this.
You have no idea the pain I felt when my
family disintegrated around me after my
mother died. My
father was a confused man. He had no
business walking away from his duty to me.
After the way he
treated me, I was bound and determined that when I grew
up, I would do so much
better with my own children. It is a parent's
responsibility to make sure her children are elevated to
better, more beneficial positions in life. I have done that. I have my home, my marvelous husband and seven
college-educated children. Not just that, they are the
best children any mother could ever hope for. I could not possibly
be more proud of then. Who would ever believe a story
like mine?"
Then she smiled at me.
"So now you
know the secret of my success. I don't tell my gangster
story to very many people. Most people
would not understand why I took money from a mobster.
They would look down their noses. I know a lot of
people like that. But now you know how I
escaped my trap and found a way to become my
own person. I could not
believe how lucky I was. Who would have imagined that a
man who barely knew me would pay for me to go to college?"
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After a pause, Mrs. Ballantyne continued.
"You know,
Rick, you remind me so much of my brother George.
I remember how hard you worked trying to
pay your own way to college. In
all my years at St. John's, I never
heard of such a thing. I am so
glad you were able to get that scholarship. George was just
as determined to get a college education as you
were.
What Mr. Maceo did for my brother was
amazing. George took that education and went
into the oil business. Next thing you
know, George turns into a hotshot businessman. Look what
Sam Maceo did for
George. Me too!!
Look what a simple
act of kindness did for both of us! If it
was not for Sam Maceo, I cannot imagine where George and I
would be today."
I smiled broadly as Mrs. Ballantyne shared
her
remarkable story about Sam Maceo, the
Galveston Godfather. In particular, I was very touched
by one thing she had said... A Simple Act of
Kindness. This was the second time I had heard her say
it and this time it really sank in.
From this point forward, this phrase would cross
my mind whenever I thought of Maria
Ballantyne.
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February 1978
up on the roof
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Mrs. Ballantyne
had been speaking now for close to four hours. At the
conclusion of the Sam Maceo story, I expected to ask questions regarding her
surprise appearance at my grocery store ten years earlier as
well as today's visit to the dance studio.
Just when I worked up the courage to speak, Dr.
Ballantyne made his second appearance. Something was wrong. Dr. Ballantyne had a
huge frown on his face and he seemed upset.
He was so oblivious to my
presence I had to assume he was used to seeing strangers in his
house. Or maybe he was just very preoccupied. As Mrs. Ballantyne
rose to see what was bothering him, she
had a worried look on her face.
I watched quietly as Dr.
Ballantyne and his wife talked over by the kitchen. To my
surprise, Mrs. Ballantyne turned to glance at me, then
pointed me out. Now for the first
time, Dr. Ballantyne seemed to notice me as well. What was this all about?
Something odd was going on.
Mrs. Ballantyne turned
to me and said,
"Rick, could I ask you a big favor?"
"Sure. What do you
need?"
"There is a cold front coming into town this evening. Temperatures are
expected to hit the low 20s. Jay is worried
the freeze could easily destroy our tropical plant collection. He has been up on the
roof all day trying to cover our open-air atrium with plastic for
protection, but he is getting
nowhere because it is a two-man job and the wind is driving him
crazy. Now he is running out of time. He is really worried he can't get the job done
in time to save his plants. Do you by chance have an hour to
spare?"
I smiled. "Of
course. I'm not busy. I would be glad to help."
So up on the roof I
went. Brrr!! I had forgotten how cold it was.
Not only was it ridiculously cold, the brisk wind was brutal.
Looking below, I
saw Dr. Ballantyne's jungle of warm-weather tropical plants.
He had every reason to worry. Without cover, they were vulnerable to the
coming threat. The moment
the freeze arrived, his plants would have no chance without protection.
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Due to the odd
configuration of their house, there was a niche of sorts where
the plants lived. I had been admiring these plants all day
thanks to the large viewing window in the living room.
However, I had no idea these plants were the reason Dr.
Ballantyne had been up on the roof.
Dr. Ballantyne's
atrium formed a 30 by 15 rectangle. Open to the sky to
permit sunlight, it was framed by the house on three sides.
The fourth side was open to the nearby swimming pool. The
narrow gap between the two long parallel sides was 15 feet
across. In order to protect the plants, Dr. Ballantyne had
two projects. First he needed to stretch sheets of plastic
from one side of the roof to the other to act as a temporary
roof. Then he needed to drop plastic from the roof to the
ground to form a fourth wall. This shield was necessary to
create a temporary greenhouse.
A strong wind
had preceded the oncoming freeze. This wind hampered
our efforts tremendously. In order to stretch the
flapping plastic properly
in the heavy wind, one man had to hold down the plastic while
the other man nailed it to a two by four on the other roof.
Dr. Ballantyne had a long rope attached to the free end of
the plastic. I waited on one side while Dr. Ballantyne
walked to the other side. Once he was in position, I
threw the 20 foot rope across the atrium to Dr. Ballantyne.
From there he used the rope to pull the plastic across the
divide to create a plastic roof. Once the plastic was
properly stretched, we could hammer it in. To be
honest, I cannot imagine how he thought he could accomplish
this without help. Who exactly was going to throw the
rope to him?
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Dr.
Ballantyne was not satisfied with just one layer. He did
not feel the
individual rolls of plastic were thick enough to
guarantee sufficient protection, so we
repeated the process three times for added protection.
I smiled when I recalled Mrs. Ballantyne had
asked for one hour. This was hard
work, so I had a hunch we would still be up
here when it got dark. Brr!
The wind was killing me. I wondered if there was time
to finish. Dr. Ballantyne was fortunate I just
happened to be there. Unless, of course,
my being there at the right time was a Supernatural event. That
curious thought occupied my mind as I pitched in.
Our final step was to
place a sturdy 20-foot wood beam across the roof at the open
end and a 15-foot beam on the ground. This was the easy
part. From there I got up on a ladder while Dr.
Ballantyne handed me plastic rolls pre-cut to the correct
length. I nailed the plastic from the roof
wood beam, then Dr. Ballantyne nailed the bottom to the wood
beam on the ground. It took a while, but we finished
enclosing the area with a temporary fourth wall. The open
side of the house facing the swimming pool was completely
enclosed.
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Dr.
Ballantyne and I spoke little during the project. Unlike his
gregarious wife, Dr. Ballantyne was a man of few words.
He was a reserved, formal man who carried himself with great
dignity. Dr. Ballantyne was
also quite the workhorse. Unwilling to take any chance of
losing his valuable plants, he refused to take a break until the
job was done. As the afternoon became evening and the
evening became night, I was amused by the
transformation in his features. Slowly but surely,
Dr. Ballantyne's
deep frown was replaced by a greatly-relieved smile.
As darkness rolled
in, the temperature began dropping rapidly just as predicted.
It was freezing out there! Having spent the afternoon
appreciating the beauty of his tropical
plants, I now understood why his collection was
a source of so much pride.
It would be such a shame to lose his rain forest. Dr. Ballantyne
was wise to cover the open area or he would have
lost every one of those plants.
All told, we were on the
roof for three hours. It
was a good idea to avoid breaks because we finished not one
minute too soon. I watched as Dr. Ballantyne used an extension
cord to place a space heater in the midst of his temporary greenhouse.
He glanced at me and smiled, "The heater is an extra precaution.
I want to thank you for your help, Rick. I could not have done this
by myself."
As Mrs. Ballantyne
handed us both some much-welcome hot chocolate, I was pleased with my
good deed. I was the little Dutch
boy who came along at an opportune moment to plug the dike. While I had been up on the roof, I thought it was
strange that out of seven grown children, not one of them
had been anywhere in sight today to pitch in. Nor did anyone drop
by with the job in progress. No doubt if they knew, they would
have come running. But still, no one had dropped by or
checked in all day long. What were the odds of
that happening? Not that I minded; this
had been a fascinating visit. Not only did I learn
fascinating details
about Mrs. Ballantyne's life, I fulfilled a long-held wish to become a Ballantyne for a day. It was an honor
I appreciated.
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I did
some serious thinking during my three hours
on the roof. There
was a story I had been dying to tell Mrs. Ballantyne, but
never got the chance. Eight years ago there had been a bizarre
incident during college. I had met a
pretty teenage girl named Vickie at the Baltimore Quaker
Meeting. When Vickie learned I was going to a
séance, she claimed she had psychic powers and begged me to
take her along. I did not believe a word she
said. There was something desperate about this girl. I assumed she was so determined to find some way to
be with me that
she would say anything to escape her miserable home for
one night. Despite my misgivings, her plea was so
poignant I gave in and agreed to take her with me.
Something very
strange happened at the séance that night, but I don't want
to spoil a great story. Suffice it to say we will get
to it in due time.
Afterwards in
the car, Vickie told me about her mother's frightening
battle with cancer, adding the end was near. Vickie
was an only child and terrified to be an orphan. She
had a distant uncle she had never met because he lived in a
remote corner of Canada. Her mother had written the
man,
but so far he had not responded. Well aware that the
Grim Reaper was sharpening his scythe at this very minute, Vickie did not know
who would take care of her when her mother was gone.
Scared, vulnerable, Vickie broke down and cried like a baby.
To my great
shame, as I listened to
Vickie pour out her heart, I wanted to run
for the hills. Intimidated by the
strange incident at the séance as well as the imminent passing of
Vickie's mother, Death was in the air and I
was scared out of my wits. I
wanted nothing to do with Vickie's intense
desperation when suddenly an image
of Mrs. Ballantyne crossed my mind.
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Mrs. Ballantyne
could easily have left me at any stage
during our long parking lot conversation.
Instead she had made sure to stay until her job was
complete. With that fact burning a
hole in my conscience, I overcame my fears
and chose to stay by Vickie's side. I
knew I could never pay Mrs. Ballantyne back
for what she had done for me, but I could
definitely 'Pay it Forward'.
When
we cannot repay a great favor to the person
who helped us, do a similar favor for someone else who needs help.
That is what I decided to do.
I freely admit I
wasn't nearly as effective with Vickie as Mrs. Ballantyne had once been
with me. But, hey, cut me some slack. Not only was I an
only child, I grew up a loner with no close friends. Here at
age 20, I had never consoled a single person in my life.
Fortunately I had Mrs. Ballantyne to use as my role model, so I
tried hard to comfort the girl. First I told
Vickie
how I too had grown up alone, then added how difficult my childhood
had been. Then I concluded by saying, "Vickie,
I have told you my story for a reason. I can see things are
really tough for you right now. But if I can do it, then so can you."
Those
of
course
were
the exact
same words Mrs. Ballantyne had used
with me. When it came to
caretaking my troubled friend, I was a rookie who was in no mood to be original.
Fortunately my 'Mrs. Ballantyne' impersonation performed a small miracle.
Vickie's tears stopped and her courage to face an unknown future
returned. However, Vickie lost her courage when we reached her mother's house.
As her forlorn, wraith-like mother stared
down from her second story window, I
shuddered the same way Vickie did. It was far too easy to
envision the Reaper standing next to the woman. Vickie
did not want to get out of the car and I did not blame her. Vickie
trembled violently as she clutched my arm like it was her last
hope against a terrible fate.
"Rick, I am so scared
to be alone with my mother.
Please don't go. Please come in with me.
Help me face this."
I shook my head. I am sorry to say,
but I was so lonely that I could easily see
falling for this helpless girl. Maybe if there had
been a greater age difference, I would been
able to assume some sort of older brother
role. However, as things stood, it
was far too awkward given that Vickie had
selected me as the boyfriend to rescue her. Vickie was 15, I was 20.
Given my strong attraction, I did not trust myself to
handle this correctly. The smart thing
to do was
leave despite my yearning to comfort her.
"Listen,
Vickie, you do not need to worry. If
your uncle does not agree to help, I
guarantee someone from the Quaker Meeting
will step in. You have too much going for you.
Be brave. I am
certain things will
work out."
Vickie swallowed hard
and nodded reluctantly.
"You're right, I can make it through this. There are
people at the Meeting who have already hinted they would step in if
my uncle refused to help."
As Vickie
forced herself to
get out of the car, I felt sheepish for copying Mrs. Ballantyne.
However, at the same time, I had definitely
helped Vickie get past the worst part of her panic.
As I drove away, I was proud of myself for paying the
kindness of Mrs. Ballantyne forward to this lonely, frightened girl.
While I worked on the roof with Dr.
Ballantyne, I thought long and hard
about Vickie and how much her plight
reminded me of my own. It was the
exact reversal of the parking lot roles.
Mrs. Ballantyne and I were
Doubles, one young, one old, brought
together seemingly by Fate. In the case of Mrs.
Ballantyne, I believe she took a special interest in
me specifically because my struggles reminded her so much of her
own problems as a child. Recalling how people had helped
her at the right time when she was young, Mrs. Ballantyne was moved
to take care of me.
In other words, Mrs. Ballantyne had 'paid it forward'.
In my case, Vickie, a girl 5 years younger,
had serious difficulties that reminded me
strongly of my own problems as a teenager.
A strange coincidence indeed. Of course I wanted
to help Vickie. How could I not?
My heart ached for her so much that I was
determined to do the best I could despite my fears. The key word
was
'Empathy', a gift Mrs. Ballantyne possessed
in abundance, a gift I hoped to acquire.
Eight years ago I had paid
forward Mrs.
Ballantyne's immense kindness to Vickie. Today it was just as
satisfying to 'Repay a favor' by
helping her husband save his beloved tropical plants. I
could not help but wonder if today's latest coincidental meeting was Karma in action. Ten years ago Mrs. Ballantyne had appeared out
of nowhere at a time when I greatly needed her help. Now ten years later, I had 'accidentally'
appeared at the exact
moment her
husband greatly needed my help. Helping with the roof been
'A Simple Act of
Kindness' of my own,
the chance to do a small favor for another person that carried great
importance for him.
Thanks
to the story of how Sam Maceo helped Mrs. Ballantyne
and her brother, the memory of how she
helped me, the memory of how I helped Vickie
plus the chance to help Dr. Ballantyne, over
the next few days I thought long and hard
about the power of
kindness.
There was something I
found very curious. Sam Maceo
had performed a
'A Simple Act of
Kindness'
for young Maria who in turn rescued me with
'A Simple Act of
Kindness'
of her own.
Then I turned around and
performed a similar service for Vickie. Suddenly I did not
want to stop with Vickie. I wanted to
help others too. This experience
made me wonder what happens to people
who are blessed to receive a gift of great
kindness. Based on what I learned, I believe it instills a
powerful desire to extend a similar service
to others.
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RICK ARCHER - MARIA BALLANTYNE
TIME LINE
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Sixth Meeting |
2015 |
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Rick visits Mrs.
Ballantyne's house to ask permission to include her in his book.
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114 |
Serious |
Coincidence
Pay it Forward |
2013 |
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Rick runs across a
picture on the Internet that reveals the true identity of
Maria's brother George.
After thorough investigation, Rick uncovers a major coincidence.
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Fifth Meeting |
2010 |
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Mrs. Ballantyne
explains more about her relationship with Charlie Salls |
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111 |
Suspicious |
Cosmic Blindness
Fourth Meeting |
2009 |
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Mrs. Ballantyne
offers the clue necessary to solve the Mystery of Rick's Senior
Year Blind Spot. Finally aware that Mr. Salls had been Rick's
Unknown Benefactor, he begins writing a book titled 'A Simple
Act of Kindness' |
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Third Meeting |
2005 |
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Mrs. Ballantyne's
niece runs across an Internet story Rick posted on the SSQQ
website
titled 'A Simple
Act of Kindness'.
Flattered, Mrs. Ballantyne calls Rick and invites him to lunch
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TWENTY-SEVEN YEAR GAP BETWEEN 1978 AND 2005 |
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061 |
Serious |
Coincidence
Pay it Forward |
1978 |
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It was
very fortunate that Rick was in a position to help Maria Ballantyne's husband
Jay save his tropical plants from a menacing freeze. In so doing, Rick
received an invaluable lesson in the power of Pay it Forward |
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060 |
Serious |
Coincidence
Second Meeting |
1978 |
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Maria
Ballantyne appears out of nowhere to surprise Rick at his dance studio.
After inviting him to lunch, that afternoon she proceeds to tell Rick her life
story. |
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TEN YEAR GAP BETWEEN 1968 AND 1978 |
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029 |
Serious |
Telepathy
Hidden World
Pay it Forward |
1970 |
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Rick pays forward his debt to Mrs. Ballantyne by
reassuring Vicky that she has the strength to face her ordeal. |
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ST. JOHN'S |
022 |
Serious |
Lucky Break
Cosmic Blindness
Wish Come True |
1968 |
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Ralph
O'Connor hands Rick a full scholarship to Johns Hopkins University with
secret help from Mr. Salls. Due to Rick's
Senior year Blind Spot,
Rick
gives Mr. Salls no credit whatsoever for this remarkable good fortune. |
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Ultra Serious |
Coincidence
Cosmic Blindness
An Act of Kindness |
1968 |
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Mrs. Ballantyne fails to notice Rick at SJS for 9 years only to
magically appear during the most serious crisis of his life. The
ensuing conversation in the grocery store parking lot gives Rick the
hope necessary to carry on. |
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020 |
Utra Serious |
Coincidence
Unlucky Break
Cosmic Blindness |
1968 |
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Caught cheating on German test
due to a very improbable coincidence. The
unacceptable loss of common sense led to the development of Rick's
Cosmic Blindness theory |
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A SIMPLE ACT OF KINDNESS:
pay it forward
Chapter
four:
LEGACY
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