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BROTHER AND
SISTER
George and
Maria Mitchell
Written by
Rick Archer
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Rick Archer's Note:
I have a
remarkable story to tell about a brother and a
sister. At its core, this story reveals the
power of Kindness and Gratitude.
George
and Maria Mitchell led exceptional lives. They
were born in Galveston, Texas, an island city
located 50 miles southeast of Houston.
In 1931
George, 13, and his sister Maria, 11, were sent
reeling by the sudden death of their mother.
Making matters far worse, their father Mike
Mitchell flipped out. No longer willing to be
a parent, he told his older sons Johnny, 20, and
Christie, 19, to move to Houston and get a job.
Then he placed George and Maria in separate homes
with relatives who did not want them. Their
father's cruel abandonment turned both children into
near orphans. Maria was the most vulnerable.
She was alone, scared, and grieving. In short
order Maria had lost her mother, her father, her two
older brothers, and now George, her best friend in
the world. Maria missed him terribly.
She cried herself to sleep every night, but it did
no good. No one came to console her.
Fortunately, after a month apart, George was able to
catch enough fish to buy a bike. This allowed
him to travel a great distance across town every
day. His comfort and reassurance made a huge
difference for the young girl. Thanks to him, Maria
was able to pull through. Growing up poor and
unwanted, the only thing these two kids had going
for them was each other. That was all they needed.
They went on to lead incredible lives.
Maria
raised a remarkable family of 7 children. She
also saved my life. Not to be out-done, George
raised 10 children. In his spare time Mr.
Mitchell singlehandedly
rescued America from our dependence on Arab oil.
Please
note that the story of George and Maria often deals
with the concept of Fate. I have favor to ask.
Please do not allow my personal views about Fate to
deter you from enjoying this remarkable story.
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Rick Archer's Note:
The tale of
Brother and Sister is an
excerpt from A Simple Act of Kindness, a
memoir of my childhood years.
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Before
we begin, I
need to explain why it is important for me to tell
this story. Although I never met George
Mitchell, I became a confidant of his sister Maria
Mitchell Ballantyne. Through the gift of
hindsight, I uncovered a wonderful secret about Mr.
Mitchell that probably belongs to me alone. In
my opinion, this revelation is far too important to
keep to myself.
The key
chapter in A Simple Act of Kindness told the story of how Maria
Ballantyne, 48, rescued me from a deep
despair. My crisis was so serious, it included
frequent and quite disturbing thoughts of suicide.
This
event took place in my senior year of high school. Mrs.
Ballantyne's
contribution was significant in two ways. Her advice gave me the courage I
needed to break through my depression and carry on. Second, the
near-miraculous circumstances surrounding her
intervention led to my keen interest in Fate.
Odd
as it seems, the story George and Maria Mitchell begins with
my own story. As for
Mr. Mitchell, please be patient. In due
time...
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1959, Age 9, 4th Grade
ST. JOHN'S
AND THE DIVORCE
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In 1959 I began my 9-year stay
at St. Johns, a well-respected (and quite
expensive) college prep school located in
Houston. Academically I belonged at
St. John's. Socially I did not belong. I have reason to
believe I was the poorest student in the
history of this school by a wide margin. It was a fluke
I was even admitted.
If it wasn't for my father's mistress I
would have never set foot.
My parents fought over a divorce every night
for a year. I was 9 at the time, a
scared little boy with no siblings, no
friends, no relatives. My parents
drove me crazy... literally. Due to
my discipline problems and near-failing
grades in public school, they had me tested. The
psychiatrist said that my problems were related to my
parents' bitter arguments.
Oh, really? They needed a psychiatrist to
figure that out? Fortunately, the man had a solution.
He recommended putting me into St. John's.
Why? The psychiatrist believed the stiff competition would bring out the
best in me. Turns out he was right.
Graduating in the top 5 of my class, I never
once failed to make the Honor Roll.
However, my father
said no. He couldn't afford it.
Which was true. The tuition was way
beyond his pay grade as an electrical
engineer. But he wanted his
divorce so badly that he agreed to pay my way
for three years. After that he quit.
Fortunately my three-year academic
performance was so good that St. John's gave me
a scholarship for the remaining six years.
Now you know how a poor kid received an
elite education.
My father was a weak
man, a flaw the mistress discovered the hard
way. She was infuriated by what she
considered my father's bad deal. The
mistress
got her man, but he was so broke
due to the exorbitant SJS tuition that she
was forced to continue to work.
Imagine her rage knowing every cent she
earned went to pay my tuition. No
fancy honeymoon, no new house, no money
for children until the three-year burden was
complete. Turning her hate on me as if
this was my fault, the mistress drove a
wedge between father and son. I saw
him for lunch four times a year for the next
nine years.
So there you have it.
I traded a father for a school. As for
my mother, she was ill-equipped to be on her
own. She had a nervous breakdown from
which she never really recovered. And
me? Abandoned by my father, neglected
by my mother, I was on my own starting at
age 10. Lonely and insecure, I tried
raising myself, but didn't do a very good
job. For nine years, all I could think
about was college as a way to escape my mother.
At the very moment my dream was about to
come true, all hell broke loose.
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1968, Age 18, 12th Grade
senior year crisis
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Fast-forward to my Senior year. The
promised land was near. Just one more year till I got
my freedom. Determined to be near my
beloved aunt and uncle,
I set my hopes and dreams on Georgetown University
in Washington, D.C. Their home in
nearby McLean, Virginia, was a
stone's throw across the Potomac River from Georgetown.
But how was I going to pay for it?
Back when he stopped paying for St. John's in the Sixth
Grade, my father promised to pay for my college education.
In February of my Senior year, my father handed me $400
and said that was his one and only
contribution. Since four years of room and board at
Georgetown hovered around $24,000 at the time,
I felt betrayed.
As
for my hapless
mother, forget it. She was
so broke, I was
forced to pay the final textbook and lunch bill at St. John's
out of my own pocket just to graduate.
So what was my backup plan?
Although my
father had promised to pay my way to college, I did not trust him. Fearful my
pathetic father was not good for
his word, during my Sophomore year
I got a job after school as a grocery sacker. I anticipated
I would have $2,000, maybe $2,200 by the start of
my Fall 1968
college year. I assumed a scholarship would pay
the rest. That made sense. If I could get a
scholarship to St. John's, surely Georgetown would recognize
my need and
reciprocate.
Shortly after my father's betrayal, a friend named David
made me aware of a fatal mistake I had made at the start of
my Senior year. In the unlikely case I did not get
into Georgetown, I had intended to apply to a state school
as a backup. However, something strange happened at
the start of the school year. Mr. Salls, the St.
John's Headmaster, had insisted I apply to Johns Hopkins
University. I had never even heard of this
school. When I read the brochure, I realized it was a
men's school. Forget that! Since Mr. Salls knew I had my heart
set on Georgetown, I could not understand why he practically
demanded I apply to Hopkins as well. When Mr. Salls
added "as a personal favor to me," I said I would
comply. However I seethed inside. Not only was the
tuition at Hopkins equal to Georgetown, it would cost me $75 to
apply. To put things into perspective, $75 was two
weeks of work at the grocery store for a school I could care
less about.
Furious at my Headmaster for bullying me into this costly promise, I
skipped applying to a state school to save money.
David and I were at lunch one day in early March.
After sharing my fear I could not afford Georgetown, David
asked a question.
"Rick, why didn't you apply to a state school?
Then your problems would be over."
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Stunned, I asked David to explain. David told me about
his brother who went to the University of Texas, tuition
$1,000 a year (as opposed to Georgetown $5,000 a year). My jaw dropped.
I was so angry I could not see straight. In my
defense, with no one to turn to for advice, I had been woefully ignorant
regarding college finance. I had no idea state tuition
was so low, but I was out of luck. It was too late to
apply.
But I could still get a scholarship to Georgetown, right? David said he doubted it. Over the past nine years, my
father's career had taken off. Dad was a genius. He designed
electrical systems for cranes that launched space capsules at Cape
Canaveral. So Dad is rich, but not rich enough. Even
rich people have their limits. Irony of ironies, my father was
sending his two children by the mistress to private schools just as expensive as St. John's.
Stretched thin, Dad decided to cut me loose. It was cruel to
realize this is why he had betrayed me.
Bitter, I exclaimed,
"So what? My father more or less disowned me.
Why should my father's salary crunch affect me?"
"Because," David said, "colleges don't see it that way. They
expect parents to fill out lengthy financial forms to qualify for
scholarships."
I turned white. Not only would my father's hefty salary
disqualify me from a scholarship, there was no way he would
consent to fill out a financial form. When he handed me those
four $100 bills, he was done with me. You're on your own, kid.
David's bad news triggered my crisis. With three months left
in the school year, the thought that I had no way to pay for college
sent me spiraling into oblivion. For nine years I studied as
hard as I could to use college as my escape route. Now my
fondest dream would have to wait till the following Fall of 1969. The thought of waiting another year drove me out of
my mind.
For eight years, St. John's had been my sanctuary.
But no longer. Forced to
listen to my privileged classmates brag about which fabulous college
had recently accepted them blah blah blah, every day was an agony. It drove me
to madness knowing every classmate went to bed at night secure
in the knowledge that Daddy's money guaranteed their college
education. Everyone but me, that is.
They say depression is
rage turned inward. In addition to hatred towards my parents
and envy
towards my classmates, I hated myself with a passion. Growing up
alone, no one had ever explained state school tuition
was so incredibly cheap that even a lowly grocery sacker could
save enough money to attend. I also
hated my Headmaster. His demand that I apply to Johns Hopkins
was the reason I no longer could pay my own way to college.
This realization was a knife through my heart.
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However there
was one last hope. The Jones Scholarship.
Based on need and academic performance, this
scholarship went to one senior at every high school in
Houston. To my surprise, I found out that included a
rich kid's school like SJS.
Wow. In that case, my good grades plus serious need
made me a shoo-in. Hey, I'm the only poor kid in the
school. When compared to my wealthy
classmates, this seemed like a done deal. So I checked
the amount of the award. $1,000 per year. Hmm.
Nowhere near enough for Georgetown's $5,000. But I had
an idea. Maybe I did not have to pay the full $5,000
up front. Maybe I only needed $2,500 for the first
semester. I had $2,100 grocery store money, my father's
$400, and the Jones Scholarship $1,000. Once I got my
foot in the door at Georgetown, maybe an impassioned face-to-face
plea
with an administrator could result in financial aid.
It was worth a try.
However, my
far-fetched plan pivoted on one thing. I had to win
the Jones Scholarship. That was my last chance.
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CHEATING ON A
GERMAN TEST
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After my father's
betrayal, I could not seem to regain my
equilibrium. My father's broken
promise plus David's revelation that my
father's salary doomed my chances of a
scholarship pushed me over the edge.
Fearful that my college dreams were coming
unraveled, I was so angry I could not see
straight.
One night I decided to
cheat on my upcoming German test. Why
would I do a stupid thing like that?
There is a psychological theory that
helpless rage turns into self-destructive
acts. Whatever the reason, I was not
thinking straight.
I balked at being made
to memorize certain facts about German
literature. Who cares? I decided
to call in sick. This way I could take
the test in a room by myself. I
studied for the main part of test, but drew
the line at the literature part worth 20% of
the grade. To my astonishment, a boy
burst through the door at the exact moment I
opened my text. Turns out he had left
his German textbook in this room earlier in
the day. When he saw my open book, a
dark look crossed his face.
I was incredulous.
The precision of the boy's timing was
uncanny. He had at most a one minute
window to surprise me. Nevertheless he
timed it on the nose. As expected, the
young man reported
me for cheating, a serious
violation of the Honor Code.
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However I was never
punished. The following day a Prefect
pulled me aside to say a report had been
made, but dismissed out of hand due to my
reputation as the best German student in my
class. I was incredulous. The
boy caught me red-handed. What
possible reason could they have to look the
other way??
Regardless of the
fortunate
outcome, the guilt was horrible. I
hated myself like I had never hated
myself before. Consider the irony. l made a 95 on the
test. However, since I
knew most of this literature material anyway from
paying attention in class, I would have made
a 90 without cheating. The knowledge that I had risked
a sterling reputation as one of
the school's top scholars for a lousy 5
points on a meaningless test was more than I
could bear. What made me do this?
Why was I so terribly out of control? And so my depression
worsened. However, the worst was yet
to come.
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SENIOR YEAR
CRISIS
THURSDAY, MARCH 14,
1968, Age 18, 12th Grade
the Jones scholarship
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How does the poorest
kid in the history of St. John's fail to win
a scholarship based on need? Good
question. I had a premonition that I
was not going to win this award. I
based my fear on the fact that no one at St.
John's had breathed a word about it to me.
My dread was
justified. On a Thursday morning in
mid-March, the Houston Chronicle
announced that Katina Ballantyne had won
the coveted Jones Scholarship for the SJS class of 1968.
The pain was unbearable.
There goes my last
chance to go to Georgetown.
I immediately went into shock.
Considering I already thought the world was
being unfair, my sense of injustice was
indescribable after this latest reversal. Considering Katina came from a wealthy
family, what on earth was going on?
Seriously, Katina's parents had enough money to
send seven children to a private school.
And here I was every afternoon at the
grocery store scrambling for dimes and
quarters in tips to pay for
Georgetown. This
made no sense. Mr. Salls knew how
broke I was. So why would he give the money to
a rich girl?
Grasping for any
kind of reason to explain why I had lost, I
turned ashen when a horrible thought came to
mind. What if Mr. Salls had done
this to punish me for the cheating episode?
Why bother with a nasty cheating scandal?
Bad for the school's reputation. Let's
give Katina the award and put her pretty face on the next SJS
Alumni magazine. As for Rick, denying
him
a scholarship that rightfully should have
been his would be a just punishment.
Oh my God, what
have I done? My last
chance to pay for Georgetown was
gone and it was my own fault. Endless
sacrifice and nine years of
hard work down the drain. Consumed with
self-hate, I fell to pieces. My
deceitful father, my penniless mother, the cheating
mistake, plus my failure to apply
to a college I could afford were bad enough.
But the worst was saved for last. With
every fiber of my being set on going to
Georgetown next fall, I was stunned to
discover my senseless cheating mistake had
cost me a scholarship. Now that my
last hope of college was
eliminated,
I sunk into a catatonic
depression. Distraught
and unable to forgive myself, I was too
ashamed to let anyone know. I did not tell
David. I did not tell Mr. Curran, my
teacher friend who was very worried about
me. Nor did I tell my hapless mother. I
could barely move.
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Completely alone on this,
thoughts of suicide took up permanent residence in my
mind.
In Hindsight, what scares me is
how utterly mixed up I was. People
wonder at the high rate of suicide among
high school and college students. I
hate to say it, but it makes perfect sense
to me. Young people lack perspective,
especially someone like me with no one to
turn to. They don't seem to realize
that bad fortune often turns around if one
can be patient and keep working through hard
times.
Could I have possibly
been more misguided? Okay, so I will
have to sit out from college a year.
Ordinarily no big deal, but I was treating
this set-back like a trip to Death Row.
Look at me. I was a tall, strapping
young man who
possessed self-discipline and a powerful
work ethic. I was about to graduate
near the top of my class at the toughest
school in Houston. Given these
blessings, it did not make a bit of sense
that I was thinking of ending my life.
Indeed, I had a bright future ahead if I
could just weather the storm. However,
I was my own worst enemy. Filled with
hate towards myself, the pressure was
killing me. Feeling hopeless, it was all I could do to
carry on.
Teetering on the
precipice, it is a wonder I didn't just
drive into some tree like I wanted to.
Strangely enough, the only thing that
stopped me was my anger towards Katina's
mother. I was totally convinced Mrs.
Ballantyne was the person who had robbed me.
Oldest story in the book. The rich get
richer, the poor kid gets the shaft.
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MARIA AND KATINA BALLANTYNE
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I was embarrassed at how
angry I felt towards
Katina and her mother for taking my
scholarship.
I did not want to hate
Katina, but I was
lost
in a whirlpool of despair.
Why did it have to be Katina?
Out
of 50 classmates, Katina was my favorite.
Bless
her heart, Katina was
one of the few St. John's girls who actually
spoke to me now and then. With her locker
next to mine due to alphabetical proximity,
Katina never failed to say good morning.
That said, we barely knew
each other. Although I liked Katina,
I never thought about
asking her out. Why not? My
mind was completely shut to
any thought of
asking a St. John's girl for a date.
Like Katina, they
were all so rich, so
poised and confident. Why would any of these
sophisticated upper class ladies be
interested in a nobody like me?
The main reason I paid attention to Katina
was my admiration. She was the
embodiment of a well-adjusted young lady.
I wished I could be like her.
As things stood, I was a
loner, acutley shy due to my arrested social
skills. I wished I could have
friends, gain respect, feel like I was part
of the in-crowd. If I had any
confidence, I probably would have fit in. I
was certainly one of the brightest. I was
also one of the top athletes. What a shame
my blind left eye kept me from participating.
But there were other
options. I could have
auditioned for a play like Katina. I could
have worked on the yearbook
like Katina. There were a lot of
things I could have done to fit in. However
I had a job every day after
school. It just wasn't meant to be.
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It was so bizarre that I
suddenly hated Katina's mother. Prior to the
Jones Scholarship robbery, I considered Mrs.
Ballantyne the finest mother at St. John's.
Even though we had never met, I admired Mrs.
Ballantyne for many reasons.
Countless times I had watched
Mrs. Ballantyne mentor her seven
children in the hallways
or the parking lot before school.
Like Katina, every child was a star athlete, a
leader and top scholar. I was convinced the success
of the fabled Ballantyne clan was directly related
to their mother's brilliance.
My hero worship
of Katina's mother
began in the 4th Grade, my first year. I was incredibly insecure
following the divorce. My mother's insane
rebound marriage to an abusive prison parolee caused great anguish.
He was an alcoholic who would beat my mother during his
drinking sprees. Fortunately a growl from my
dog Terry put an end to that. One day the cops
came looking for the jerk over some hot checks.
Good riddance.
My
mother's
manic-depressive behavior
was another source of worry.
Seeing
her racked with sobs, there were times I worried she
might kill herself. My other fear was seeing her wind up
in the loony bin and be unable to care for me. Just the
thought of being forced to live with the hateful mistress would be enough to scare the wits out
of any vulnerable kid.
Due to an increasing loss of confidence in my
own mother, I wondered what other mothers were like. Enter
Maria Ballantyne. I noticed her confidence. I saw the
respect given by other mothers at the school. I watched with envy how her seven
children gravitated to her. I was a near-orphan. How
could I not be attracted to this caring, charismatic mother?
I watched
how Mrs. Ballantyne dominated the afternoon Mother's Guild
conversations. The Mother's Guild was a group of SJS
mothers who met several times a week to plan dance parties,
proms, book fairs, alumni receptions and fund raisers.
After their meetings, the various mothers stuck around for
coffee and tea. Conducting their chats in an open area,
I noticed how Maria Ballantyne was invariably a
fixture in the center while other women revolved around her
like satellites. I also noticed her warm
kinship with Mr. Salls, the Headmaster. Which
made sense. A Headmaster had good reason to
honor the mother of seven outstanding students. This
is why I considered
Maria
Ballantyne the most influential parent
at St. John's.
Given my troubled
home, I saw no reason to apologize for my adulation. I was
a sad, unhappy little boy who meant no harm. Respectful of her privacy, I would not dream of bothering her.
Indeed, during my nine years at SJS, we had never spoken.
All I did was study her from afar. I would
stand unnoticed in a corner and wonder what I could have accomplished
if I had someone like Mrs. Ballantyne for a mother. The thought of
having an effective mother to love and encourage me was
an overwhelming fantasy. But look how I turned out
instead. I was friendless, alienated from both
parents, self-centered and bitter.
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In
an act of blinding stupidity I had cheated due to
anger that twisted my mind. Ironically, I won the award
as the
school's top German student that year. I say
this not to brag, but to demonstrate my decision to
cheat was an aberration. Okay, so I cheated.
But after all my hard work, I believed I deserved a
second chance. If I had won the Jones
Scholarship, I very well could have pulled off my
Georgetown foot-in-the-door strategy. Winning
that prestigious award would have gone a long way
towards persuading a Georgetown administrator to
give me financial aid. But that was not meant to be.
Why not? Because Katina had the best mother in the
school.
Because her skillful mother had persuaded Mr. Salls to
bypass the underdog and honor her daughter instead. Or
so I thought.
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My sense of
shame was overwhelming. I could not believe I had
thrown away the chance of a lifetime because I was too
important to be bothered with memorizing the names of
Nietzsche, Goethe, Hesse and Mann.
At this moment, I hit rock
bottom. This was my Darkest Day. I was reminded of the Myth of Sisyphus,
the eternal symbol of futility.
As I watched my rock plummet to the valley below, nine years
of
hard work was ruined because I was such an idiot.
Jones Scholarship. Gone.
Georgetown. Gone. My reputation. Gone. I had gotten what I deserved
and it was my own fault. This was no nightmare. This was High School
Hell.
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My classmates did not know I
existed.
My mother could not wait to rent my room out.
My father
placed his other two children above me.
The grocery store manager wanted
to fire me for constant backtalk. The
basketball coach did not want me due to my attitude problem. The high school dean told me
every day I did not deserve my scholarship. And now Mr. Salls, a
man I admired greatly, was against me as well. By choosing
Katina over me, Mr. Salls had made it clear how disgusted he was.
Since Mr. Salls had previously been my German teacher for three
years, he was
in good position to judge my character. The verdict was in.
Mr. Salls had found
I lacked
integrity. By his actions, my status as a loser had just been affirmed by the most
important man in the school.
My biggest fear for all
these years had been how to pay for college. I imagine Mr. Salls could have used his considerable
influence to get me into Georgetown. Instead I had alienated the one man best positioned to help me
overcome my deadbeat father. It could not get any
worse than this. I was trapped in the
very nightmare I had struggled so hard to avoid. I was absolutely crushed. No punishment
could possibly hurt worse than this. It wasn't just
losing Georgetown. The loss of Mr. Salls' respect left me shattered.
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St. John's had taken a
chance on me. I was the Creepy
Loser Kid, a disappointment to the school's trust by every
possible definition. I was
finished. I had nowhere left to turn.
The Jones Scholarship
had been my last hope.
With
no college options left I was sinking
into a deep chasm of despair. I was sick with worry. I couldn't
eat. I couldn't concentrate. I was so nervous I began to
tremble. Every moment
was full of dread. I was so desperate that frightening thoughts of suicide entered my mind.
No matter how hard I tried, I could not control these terrible
thoughts. They haunted me at night and followed me during
the day like the grim reaper.
I hated myself every waking moment. There seemed to be a
universal consensus that I sucked as a human being. Lost in a
whirlpool of bitterness and self-pity, it was me against the
World... and the World wasn't just winning, it was running up the
score. In boxing terms, I was
on the ropes.
One more blow and Rick Archer was going down.
I could feel the Abyss calling.
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