Brother and Sister
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BROTHER AND SISTER

George and Maria Mitchell

Written by Rick Archer


 

 

 

Rick Archer's Note:

I have a remarkable story to tell about a brother and a sister.  At its core, this story reveals the power of Kindness and Gratitude.

George and Maria Mitchell led exceptional lives.  They were born in Galveston, Texas, an island city located 50 miles southeast of Houston. 

In 1931 George, 13, and his sister Maria, 11, were sent reeling by the sudden death of their mother.  Making matters far worse, their father Mike Mitchell flipped out.  No longer willing to be a parent, he told his older sons Johnny, 20, and Christie, 19, to move to Houston and get a job.  Then he placed George and Maria in separate homes with relatives who did not want them.  Their father's cruel abandonment turned both children into near orphans.  Maria was the most vulnerable.  She was alone, scared, and grieving.  In short order Maria had lost her mother, her father, her two older brothers, and now George, her best friend in the world.  Maria missed him terribly.  She cried herself to sleep every night, but it did no good.  No one came to console her.

Fortunately, after a month apart, George was able to catch enough fish to buy a bike.  This allowed him to travel a great distance across town every day.  His comfort and reassurance made a huge difference for the young girl. Thanks to him, Maria was able to pull through.  Growing up poor and unwanted, the only thing these two kids had going for them was each other.  That was all they needed.  They went on to lead incredible lives.

Maria raised a remarkable family of 7 children.  She also saved my life.  Not to be out-done, George raised 10 children.  In his spare time Mr. Mitchell singlehandedly rescued America from our dependence on Arab oil.

Please note that the story of George and Maria often deals with the concept of Fate.  I have favor to ask.  Please do not allow my personal views about Fate to deter you from enjoying this remarkable story. 

 
 
 

WHO IS RICK ARCHER?
 
 

Rick Archer's Note:

The tale of Brother and Sister is an excerpt from A Simple Act of Kindness, a memoir of my childhood years. 

 

Before we begin, I need to explain why it is important for me to tell this story.  Although I never met George Mitchell, I became a confidant of his sister Maria Mitchell Ballantyne.  Through the gift of hindsight, I uncovered a wonderful secret about Mr. Mitchell that probably belongs to me alone.  In my opinion, this revelation is far too important to keep to myself. 

The key chapter in A Simple Act of Kindness told the story of how Maria Ballantyne, 48, rescued me from a deep despair.  My crisis was so serious, it included frequent and quite disturbing thoughts of suicide. 

This event took place in my senior year of high school.  Mrs. Ballantyne's contribution was significant in two ways.  Her advice gave me the courage I needed to break through my depression and carry on.  Second, the near-miraculous circumstances surrounding her intervention led to my keen interest in Fate. 

Odd as it seems, the story George and Maria Mitchell begins with my own story.  As for Mr. Mitchell, please be patient.  In due time...

 
 



1959, Age 9, 4th Grade

ST. JOHN'S AND THE DIVORCE
 

 

In 1959 I began my 9-year stay at St. Johns, a well-respected (and quite expensive) college prep school located in Houston.  Academically I belonged at St. John's.  Socially I did not belong.  I have reason to believe I was the poorest student in the history of this school by a wide margin.  It was a fluke I was even admitted.  If it wasn't for my father's mistress I would have never set foot.  My parents fought over a divorce every night for a year.  I was 9 at the time, a scared little boy with no siblings, no friends, no relatives.  My parents drove me crazy... literally.  Due to my discipline problems and near-failing grades in public school, they had me tested.  The psychiatrist said that my problems were related to my parents' bitter arguments.  Oh, really?  They needed a psychiatrist to figure that out?  Fortunately, the man had a solution.  He recommended putting me into St. John's.  Why?  The psychiatrist believed the stiff competition would bring out the best in me.  Turns out he was right.  Graduating in the top 5 of my class, I never once failed to make the Honor Roll.

However, my father said no.  He couldn't afford it.  Which was true.  The tuition was way beyond his pay grade as an electrical engineer.  But he wanted his divorce so badly that he agreed to pay my way for three years.  After that he quit.  Fortunately my three-year academic performance was so good that St. John's gave me a scholarship for the remaining six years.  Now you know how a poor kid received an elite education. 

My father was a weak man, a flaw the mistress discovered the hard way.  She was infuriated by what she considered my father's bad deal.  The mistress got her man, but he was so broke due to the exorbitant SJS tuition that she was forced to continue to work.  Imagine her rage knowing every cent she earned went to pay my tuition.  No fancy honeymoon, no new house, no money for children until the three-year burden was complete.  Turning her hate on me as if this was my fault, the mistress drove a wedge between father and son.  I saw him for lunch four times a year for the next nine years. 

So there you have it.  I traded a father for a school.  As for my mother, she was ill-equipped to be on her own.  She had a nervous breakdown from which she never really recovered.  And me?  Abandoned by my father, neglected by my mother, I was on my own starting at age 10.  Lonely and insecure, I tried raising myself, but didn't do a very good job.  For nine years, all I could think about was college as a way to escape my mother.  At the very moment my dream was about to come true, all hell broke loose. 

 
 



1968, Age 18, 12th Grade

senior year crisis
 

 

Fast-forward to my Senior year.  The promised land was near.  Just one more year till I got my freedom.  Determined to be near my beloved aunt and uncle, I set my hopes and dreams on Georgetown University in Washington, D.C.  Their home in nearby McLean, Virginia, was a stone's throw across the Potomac River from Georgetown.  But how was I going to pay for it?  Back when he stopped paying for St. John's in the Sixth Grade, my father promised to pay for my college education.  In February of my Senior year, my father handed me $400 and said that was his one and only contribution.  Since four years of room and board at Georgetown hovered around $24,000 at the time, I felt betrayed.  As for my hapless mother, forget it.  She was so broke, I was forced to pay the final textbook and lunch bill at St. John's out of my own pocket just to graduate. 

So what was my backup plan?  Although my father had promised to pay my way to college, I did not trust him.  Fearful my pathetic father was not good for his word, during my Sophomore year I got a job after school as a grocery sacker.  I anticipated I would have $2,000, maybe $2,200 by the start of my Fall 1968 college year.  I assumed a scholarship would pay the rest.  That made sense.  If I could get a scholarship to St. John's, surely Georgetown would recognize my need and reciprocate. 

Shortly after my father's betrayal, a friend named David made me aware of a fatal mistake I had made at the start of my Senior year.  In the unlikely case I did not get into Georgetown, I had intended to apply to a state school as a backup.  However, something strange happened at the start of the school year.  Mr. Salls, the St. John's Headmaster, had insisted I apply to Johns Hopkins University.  I had never even heard of this school.  When I read the brochure, I realized it was a men's school.  Forget that!  Since Mr. Salls knew I had my heart set on Georgetown, I could not understand why he practically demanded I apply to Hopkins as well.  When Mr. Salls added "as a personal favor to me," I said I would comply.  However I seethed inside.  Not only was the tuition at Hopkins equal to Georgetown, it would cost me $75 to apply.  To put things into perspective, $75 was two weeks of work at the grocery store for a school I could care less about.  Furious at my Headmaster for bullying me into this costly promise, I skipped applying to a state school to save money. 

David and I were at lunch one day in early March.  After sharing my fear I could not afford Georgetown, David asked a question.

"Rick, why didn't you apply to a state school?  Then your problems would be over." 

 

Stunned, I asked David to explain.  David told me about his brother who went to the University of Texas, tuition $1,000 a year (as opposed to Georgetown $5,000 a year).  My jaw dropped.  I was so angry I could not see straight.  In my defense, with no one to turn to for advice, I had been woefully ignorant regarding college finance.  I had no idea state tuition was so low, but I was out of luck.  It was too late to apply.

But I could still get a scholarship to Georgetown, right?  David said he doubted it.  Over the past nine years, my father's career had taken off.  Dad was a genius.  He designed electrical systems for cranes that launched space capsules at Cape Canaveral.  So Dad is rich, but not rich enough.  Even rich people have their limits.  Irony of ironies, my father was sending his two children by the mistress to private schools just as expensive as St. John's.  Stretched thin, Dad decided to cut me loose.  It was cruel to realize this is why he had betrayed me. 

Bitter, I exclaimed, "So what?  My father more or less disowned me.  Why should my father's salary crunch affect me?"

"Because," David said, "colleges don't see it that way.  They expect parents to fill out lengthy financial forms to qualify for scholarships."

I turned white.  Not only would my father's hefty salary disqualify me from a scholarship, there was no way he would consent to fill out a financial form.  When he handed me those four $100 bills, he was done with me.  You're on your own, kid.

David's bad news triggered my crisis.  With three months left in the school year, the thought that I had no way to pay for college sent me spiraling into oblivion.  For nine years I studied as hard as I could to use college as my escape route.  Now my fondest dream would have to wait till the following Fall of 1969.  The thought of waiting another year drove me out of my mind. 

For eight years, St. John's had been my sanctuary.  But no longer.  Forced to listen to my privileged classmates brag about which fabulous college had recently accepted them blah blah blah, every day was an agony.  It drove me to madness knowing every classmate went to bed at night secure in the knowledge that Daddy's money guaranteed their college education.  Everyone but me, that is. 

They say depression is rage turned inward.  In addition to hatred towards my parents and envy towards my classmates, I hated myself with a passion.  Growing up alone, no one had ever explained state school tuition was so incredibly cheap that even a lowly grocery sacker could save enough money to attend.  I also hated my Headmaster.  His demand that I apply to Johns Hopkins was the reason I no longer could pay my own way to college.  This realization was a knife through my heart.

 

However there was one last hope.  The Jones Scholarship.  Based on need and academic performance, this scholarship went to one senior at every high school in Houston.  To my surprise, I found out that included a rich kid's school like SJS.  Wow.  In that case, my good grades plus serious need made me a shoo-in.  Hey, I'm the only poor kid in the school.  When compared to my wealthy classmates, this seemed like a done deal.  So I checked the amount of the award.  $1,000 per year.  Hmm.  Nowhere near enough for Georgetown's $5,000.  But I had an idea.  Maybe I did not have to pay the full $5,000 up front.  Maybe I only needed $2,500 for the first semester.  I had $2,100 grocery store money, my father's $400, and the Jones Scholarship $1,000.  Once I got my foot in the door at Georgetown, maybe an impassioned face-to-face plea with an administrator could result in financial aid.  It was worth a try.

However, my far-fetched plan pivoted on one thing.  I had to win the Jones Scholarship.  That was my last chance. 

 
 



CHEATING ON A GERMAN TEST

 

After my father's betrayal, I could not seem to regain my equilibrium.  My father's broken promise plus David's revelation that my father's salary doomed my chances of a scholarship pushed me over the edge.  Fearful that my college dreams were coming unraveled, I was so angry I could not see straight.

One night I decided to cheat on my upcoming German test.  Why would I do a stupid thing like that?  There is a psychological theory that helpless rage turns into self-destructive acts.  Whatever the reason, I was not thinking straight. 

I balked at being made to memorize certain facts about German literature.  Who cares?  I decided to call in sick.  This way I could take the test in a room by myself.  I studied for the main part of test, but drew the line at the literature part worth 20% of the grade.  To my astonishment, a boy burst through the door at the exact moment I opened my text.  Turns out he had left his German textbook in this room earlier in the day.  When he saw my open book, a dark look crossed his face. 

I was incredulous.  The precision of the boy's timing was uncanny.  He had at most a one minute window to surprise me.  Nevertheless he timed it on the nose.  As expected, the young man reported me for cheating, a serious violation of the Honor Code. 

 

However I was never punished.  The following day a Prefect pulled me aside to say a report had been made, but dismissed out of hand due to my reputation as the best German student in my class.  I was incredulous.  The boy caught me red-handed.  What possible reason could they have to look the other way?? 

Regardless of the fortunate outcome, the guilt was horrible.  I hated myself like I had never hated myself before.  Consider the irony.  l made a 95 on the test.  However, since I knew most of this literature material anyway from paying attention in class, I would have made a 90 without cheating.  The knowledge that I had risked a sterling reputation as one of the school's top scholars for a lousy 5 points on a meaningless test was more than I could bear.  What made me do this?  Why was I so terribly out of control?  And so my depression worsened.  However, the worst was yet to come. 

 
 



SENIOR YEAR CRISIS

THURSDAY, MARCH 14, 1968, Age 18, 12th Grade

the Jones scholarship
 

 

How does the poorest kid in the history of St. John's fail to win a scholarship based on need?  Good question.  I had a premonition that I was not going to win this award.  I based my fear on the fact that no one at St. John's had breathed a word about it to me.

My dread was justified.  On a Thursday morning in mid-March, the Houston Chronicle announced that Katina Ballantyne had won the coveted Jones Scholarship for the SJS class of 1968.  The pain was unbearable.  There goes my last chance to go to Georgetown.  I immediately went into shock. 

Considering I already thought the world was being unfair, my sense of injustice was indescribable after this latest reversal.  Considering Katina came from a wealthy family, what on earth was going on?  Seriously, Katina's parents had enough money to send seven children to a private school.  And here I was every afternoon at the grocery store scrambling for dimes and quarters in tips to pay for Georgetown.  This made no sense.  Mr. Salls knew how broke I was.  So why would he give the money to a rich girl?

Grasping for any kind of reason to explain why I had lost, I turned ashen when a horrible thought came to mind.  What if Mr. Salls had done this to punish me for the cheating episode?  Why bother with a nasty cheating scandal?  Bad for the school's reputation.  Let's give Katina the award and put her pretty face on the next SJS Alumni magazine.  As for Rick, denying him a scholarship that rightfully should have been his would be a just punishment.

Oh my God, what have I done?  My last chance to pay for Georgetown was gone and it was my own fault.  Endless sacrifice and nine years of hard work down the drain.  Consumed with self-hate, I fell to pieces.  My deceitful father, my penniless mother, the cheating mistake, plus my failure to apply to a college I could afford were bad enough.  But the worst was saved for last.  With every fiber of my being set on going to Georgetown next fall, I was stunned to discover my senseless cheating mistake had cost me a scholarship.  Now that my last hope of college was eliminated, I sunk into a catatonic depression.  Distraught and unable to forgive myself, I was too ashamed to let anyone know.  I did not tell David.  I did not tell Mr. Curran, my teacher friend who was very worried about me.  Nor did I tell my hapless mother.  I could barely move. 

 

Completely alone on this, thoughts of suicide took up permanent residence in my mind. 

In Hindsight, what scares me is how utterly mixed up I was.  People wonder at the high rate of suicide among high school and college students.  I hate to say it, but it makes perfect sense to me.  Young people lack perspective, especially someone like me with no one to turn to.  They don't seem to realize that bad fortune often turns around if one can be patient and keep working through hard times. 

Could I have possibly been more misguided?  Okay, so I will have to sit out from college a year.  Ordinarily no big deal, but I was treating this set-back like a trip to Death Row.  Look at me.  I was a tall, strapping young man who possessed self-discipline and a powerful work ethic.  I was about to graduate near the top of my class at the toughest school in Houston.  Given these blessings, it did not make a bit of sense that I was thinking of ending my life.  Indeed, I had a bright future ahead if I could just weather the storm.  However, I was my own worst enemy.  Filled with hate towards myself, the pressure was killing me.  Feeling hopeless, it was all I could do to carry on. 

Teetering on the precipice, it is a wonder I didn't just drive into some tree like I wanted to.  Strangely enough, the only thing that stopped me was my anger towards Katina's mother.  I was totally convinced Mrs. Ballantyne was the person who had robbed me.  Oldest story in the book.  The rich get richer, the poor kid gets the shaft.

 
 



MARIA AND KATINA BALLANTYNE
 

 

I was embarrassed at how angry I felt towards Katina and her mother for taking my scholarship.  I did not want to hate Katina, but I was lost in a whirlpool of despair.  Why did it have to be Katina?  Out of 50 classmates, Katina was my favorite.  Bless her heart, Katina was one of the few St. John's girls who actually spoke to me now and then.  With her locker next to mine due to alphabetical proximity, Katina never failed to say good morning.  That said, we barely knew each other.  Although I liked Katina, I never thought about asking her out.  Why not?  My mind was completely shut to any thought of asking a St. John's girl for a date.  Like Katina, they were all so rich, so poised and confident.  Why would any of these sophisticated upper class ladies be interested in a nobody like me? 

The main reason I paid attention to Katina was my admiration.  She was the embodiment of a well-adjusted young lady.  I wished I could be like her.  As things stood, I was a loner, acutley shy due to my arrested social skills.  I wished I could have friends, gain respect, feel like I was part of the in-crowd.  If I had any confidence, I probably would have fit in.  I was certainly one of the brightest.  I was also one of the top athletes.  What a shame my blind left eye kept me from participating.  But there were other options.  I could have auditioned for a play like Katina.  I could have worked on the yearbook like Katina.  There were a lot of things I could have done to fit in.  However I had a job every day after school.  It just wasn't meant to be. 

 

It was so bizarre that I suddenly hated Katina's mother.  Prior to the Jones Scholarship robbery, I considered Mrs. Ballantyne the finest mother at St. John's.  Even though we had never met, I admired Mrs. Ballantyne for many reasons. 

Countless times I had watched Mrs. Ballantyne mentor her seven children in the hallways or the parking lot before school.  Like Katina, every child was a star athlete, a leader and top scholar.  I was convinced the success of the fabled Ballantyne clan was directly related to their mother's brilliance. 

My hero worship of Katina's mother began in the 4th Grade, my first year.  I was incredibly insecure following the divorce.  My mother's insane rebound marriage to an abusive prison parolee caused great anguish.  He was an alcoholic who would beat my mother during his drinking sprees.  Fortunately a growl from my dog Terry put an end to that.  One day the cops came looking for the jerk over some hot checks.  Good riddance.

My mother's manic-depressive behavior was another source of worry.  Seeing her racked with sobs, there were times I worried she might kill herself.  My other fear was seeing her wind up in the loony bin and be unable to care for me.  Just the thought of being forced to live with the hateful mistress would be enough to scare the wits out of any vulnerable kid. 

Due to an increasing loss of confidence in my own mother, I wondered what other mothers were like.  Enter Maria Ballantyne.  I noticed her confidence.  I saw the respect given by other mothers at the school.  I watched with envy how her seven children gravitated to her.  I was a near-orphan.  How could I not be attracted to this caring, charismatic mother?

I watched how Mrs. Ballantyne dominated the afternoon Mother's Guild conversations.  The Mother's Guild was a group of SJS mothers who met several times a week to plan dance parties, proms, book fairs, alumni receptions and fund raisers.  After their meetings, the various mothers stuck around for coffee and tea.  Conducting their chats in an open area, I noticed how Maria Ballantyne was invariably a fixture in the center while other women revolved around her like satellites.  I also noticed her warm kinship with Mr. Salls, the Headmaster.  Which made sense.  A Headmaster had good reason to honor the mother of seven outstanding students. This is why I considered Maria Ballantyne the most influential parent at St. John's.   

Given my troubled home, I saw no reason to apologize for my adulation.  I was a sad, unhappy little boy who meant no harm.  Respectful of her privacy, I would not dream of bothering her.  Indeed, during my nine years at SJS, we had never spoken.  All I did was study her from afar.  I would stand unnoticed in a corner and wonder what I could have accomplished if I had someone like Mrs. Ballantyne for a mother.  The thought of having an effective mother to love and encourage me was an overwhelming fantasy.  But look how I turned out instead.  I was friendless, alienated from both parents, self-centered and bitter. 

 

 

In an act of blinding stupidity I had cheated due to anger that twisted my mind.  Ironically, I won the award as the school's top German student that year.  I say this not to brag, but to demonstrate my decision to cheat was an aberration.  Okay, so I cheated.  But after all my hard work, I believed I deserved a second chance.  If I had won the Jones Scholarship, I very well could have pulled off my Georgetown foot-in-the-door strategy.  Winning that prestigious award would have gone a long way towards persuading a Georgetown administrator to give me financial aid.  But that was not meant to be.  Why not?  Because Katina had the best mother in the school.  Because her skillful mother had persuaded Mr. Salls to bypass the underdog and honor her daughter instead.  Or so I thought.

 

 

My sense of shame was overwhelming.  I could not believe I had thrown away the chance of a lifetime because I was too important to be bothered with memorizing the names of Nietzsche, Goethe, Hesse and Mann. 

At this moment, I hit rock bottom.  This was my Darkest Day.  I was reminded of the Myth of Sisyphus, the eternal symbol of futility.  As I watched my rock plummet to the valley below, nine years of hard work was ruined because I was such an idiot.

Jones Scholarship.  Gone.  Georgetown.  Gone.  My reputation.  Gone.  I had gotten what I deserved and it was my own fault.  This was no nightmare.  This was High School Hell.

 

My classmates did not know I existed.  My mother could not wait to rent my room out.  My father placed his other two children above me.  The grocery store manager wanted to fire me for constant backtalk.  The basketball coach did not want me due to my attitude problem.  The high school dean told me every day I did not deserve my scholarship.  And now Mr. Salls, a man I admired greatly, was against me as well.  By choosing Katina over me, Mr. Salls had made it clear how disgusted he was.  Since Mr. Salls had previously been my German teacher for three years, he was in good position to judge my character.  The verdict was in.  Mr. Salls had found I lacked integrity.  By his actions, my status as a loser had just been affirmed by the most important man in the school. 

My biggest fear for all these years had been how to pay for college.  I imagine Mr. Salls could have used his considerable influence to get me into Georgetown.  Instead I had alienated the one man best positioned to help me overcome my deadbeat father.  It could not get any worse than this.  I was trapped in the very nightmare I had struggled so hard to avoid.  I was absolutely crushed.  No punishment could possibly hurt worse than this.  It wasn't just losing Georgetown.  The loss of Mr. Salls' respect left me shattered. 

 

St. John's had taken a chance on me.  I was the Creepy Loser Kid, a disappointment to the school's trust by every possible definition.  I was finished.  I had nowhere left to turn.  The Jones Scholarship had been my last hope.  With no college options left I was sinking into a deep chasm of despair.  I was sick with worry.  I couldn't eat.  I couldn't concentrate.  I was so nervous I began to tremble.  Every moment was full of dread.  I was so desperate that frightening thoughts of suicide entered my mind.  No matter how hard I tried, I could not control these terrible thoughts.  They haunted me at night and followed me during the day like the grim reaper. 

I hated myself every waking moment.  There seemed to be a universal consensus that I sucked as a human being.  Lost in a whirlpool of bitterness and self-pity, it was me against the World... and the World wasn't just winning, it was running up the score.  In boxing terms, I was on the ropes.  One more blow and Rick Archer was going down.

I could feel the Abyss calling.

 

 


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